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Saturday
Mar072015

Take a Leap of Faith!

You want to make a change. You believe your life has become stagnant. Your relationship is beginning to bore you.  You still haven't gone after your dreams and you believe time is running out. These thoughts will inevitably pass through your mind at various times in your life. The question is not wondering if your thoughts are valid, because they are. The question is what will you do about it.

You need to decide if you will let these feelings pass (and eventually they will on their own) or if you will take action and make a change. There's really no right or wrong choice, there's simply a time to choose. But before you choose to ignore that tugging feeling that tells you something needs to shift, I invite you to take a look at what is most likely stopping you from taking a risk and creating change.

Some may say that your reasons for wanting a change are impractical, irrational, or unreasonable. Some may warn you that you're better off with what you have than risking the unknown. Others will convince you that your desires are childish and irresponsible. You, yourself will create doubt and uncertainty as to the reasons behind your restlessness or the validity of what you want to do.  The bottom line is you and your well meaning friends and family are experiencing the same thing... Fear.

So how do you overcome your fear? There's only one simple answer. You take a leap of faith. I know that some of you are assuming I mean you trust that God or the Universe or Whatever will be watching over you and taking care of you and your choices. And there's nothing wrong with defining that statement in that way. But I'm talking about a different kind of faith--the faith I'm referring to is faith in YOURSELF.

Here's what's important for you to remember about yourself when you're feeling scared about change.

  • You have been through many changes in your life already and have survived each and every one of them.
  • You have fallen down more than once, picked yourself up off the ground, and moved on until life became more manageable.
  • You have developed a support system whether you know it or not. There has been someone somewhere who has helped you during times of crisis, change and uncertainty.
  • You know how to ask for help and accept help when you need it.
  • You have coping skills that have been developing since you were born. You have more of them than you realize.
  • You learn from your experiences (you can't help but do this as your brain is hard-wired to) and apply those learnings to other things.
  • You know that most things in life are worth the risk--love, adventure, joy, accomplishments, growth.
  • You know that without change, growth does not occur; without growth, things wither and die.
  • You know that you can't control much but what you can control can make a difference to yourself and others.
  • You know that even with risk, you may not get to your desired destination.
  • You also know that some of the best destinations are unplanned.


Take a leap of faith today...in yourself.

Believe in your ability to create, learn, problem-solve, adapt, deal with disappointment and celebrate life.

Be bold. Take a leap of faith. Jump into your next adventure.

Be well,
Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to make a change in their life, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Sunday
Oct192014

Are you up for an experiment? I challenge you to live like Charles Schultz!

Charles Schultz was a lucky man. Read why.

 "My life has no purpose, no direction, no aim, no meaning, and yet I’m happy. I can’t figure it out. What am I doing right?" – Charles Schultz

I think the reason why Charles Schultz lived his life as a happy man was because he purposely avoided over thinking--the meaning of life--his life. We spend a lot of time thinking--thinking about what happened in the past, what it meant, what is happening to us right now, how can we overcome it, what will happen in the future and how we can control it.

I know we all have a frontal cortex that is designed to do just that. But really, don't you think we over think things a bit too much? Maybe our frontal cortex is responsible for our unhappiness? Maybe we'd all be better off if we just didn't try to be so smart and so clever in figuring things out. Just possibly Charles got it right. No meaning, no purpose. Just life.

I say let's give it a try. For one week, stop living your life in pursuit of anything. Don't over think it. Just live.

Let me know how it goes!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. As always, I’m here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Sunday
Sep142014

A Encore of Julie Orlov Q&A on Love and Relationships: Why was my ex able to move on so quickly?

Watch this weeks “Ask an Expert” video as Julie Orlov answers your questions on love and relationships. Today's question is "Why was my ex able to move on so quickly?" Did our 15 year marriage mean anything?"

Going through a divorce is hard. When an ex-spouse remarries, it is common for the other party to have some feelings—even if they were the one that wanted the divorce in the first place. A lot of feelings come up, including jealousy, resentment, hurt, and a final layer of loss. If an ex gets remarried immediately after the divorce papers are signed, it can elicit other questions as well.

Today’s question addresses these issues. Watch and learn the different ways people mourn and let go during the process of divorce and what it does and does not mean if your ex remarries quickly.

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Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to let go of the past and find a new love, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Monday
Aug112014

My Favorite Quote for the Week

"A happy childhood is the worst possible preparation for life" - Richard S. Friedman

I love this quote. Not only is it true, it reflects the true meaning of life. So many people dream of a day when they win the lottery, fall in love, or retire to that perfect fantasy life. The fantasy is that if we had it easy, if things were magically "handled" for us, if we had no worries, then we would find our ultimate happiness.  The truth is our life has meaning, texture and character all because we DON"T have it easy all the time, things are not magically handled for us and we have worries and struggles throughout our lives. It is in those moments when we are challenged that our lives become alive, evolve and transform before our very eyes.

No one said life was easy. It's not. But easy doesn't mean fulfilling and satisfying. So today, look back on your life and appreciate where you've been and how you've become the person you are today. I guarantee it was not because you had it easy. It was not because everything was handed to you on a silver platter. It was because you overcame struggles, learned your lessons the hard way and celebrated those sweet moments of triumph even more so because of it.

Here's to your life--a life well lived.  Now go take on the day!

Be well,
Julie

If you are someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Friday
Jul112014

What is Your Body Telling You?

We spend a lot of time focusing on things outside of ourselves--our spouses, children, friends, work, household chores, etc.  When we focus on life's transitions, they also tend to be external events--anniversaries, graduations, births, deaths, moves, promotions, etc.

However, unless we're dealing with life and death issues, we tend to forget that we our organic in nature. Our bodies have their own transitions and milestones. We go through puberty, pregnancies, illnesses, growth, injuries, menopause (both male and female versions), aging, and eventually, death.  

At times we have more energy and at others, less. There are times when we seem more prone to illness and disease and there are times when we feel strong and invincible.  Our energy has its ebb and flow just as our relationships and our seasons. Some of us are lucky to have good health well into our old age and others find themselves challenged with serious and chronic disease.  

Experts will tell you that your body has its own markers. Some are determined by genetics, others by lifestyle, and others still by chance and fate. Some people teach mind over matter, others teach mind-body connection. Some people preach God's will over genetics, others practice modern medicine, the latest miracle drug and the age defying diet.

Regardless of which truths beckon you, I believe it is important to listen to the wisdom your body holds. If it tells you to rest, rest. If it tells you to be in motion, be in motion. If it tells you to drink water, quench its thirst.  

The body knows more than you think. Learning to listen will give you clues as to what job offer to accept, which people are good for you to have as friends, which invitations to accept and which ones to reject. Your body tells you when danger is near, when you need to slow down and when you need to make that appointment with your doctor.

It's easy to spend time in our heads. It's easy to ignore what our body is telling us until it is too late.

So spend time everyday listening within. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. Honor its wisdom.

If you or someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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