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Friday
Mar112016

Lessons Learned as I Turn 55 Today

I remember the day I turned 50. In fact, I believe I wrote a blog about hitting that milestone five short years ago. So as another five years have passed, I can’t help but take the time to reflect.

The past five years have flown by and I can’t believe how different my life is. A lot has happened in just five years. But let’s face it. As I look back on each half decade, I can say the same. A lot happens. Life happens.

In the past five years I have gotten married, buried my mother, bought a house, taken on new and challenging work as a consultant, moved offices and expanded my therapy practice, launched my Pathway to Love books and program, hosted a radio show, had one surgery, launched my children off to college, and adopted one rescue dog. Seems like a lot J.

But if I look back on my years in blocks of decades or half decades, my list would be as extensive as the one listed above—different, but still full. So here is what I’ve concluded from my wise and not so wise 55 years on the planet.

  • Living a life filled with joys and sorrows, old friends and new loves, change and adventures, stagnation and frustration, and challenges and triumphs, is a life worth living. Appreciate looking back on your half decades with awe in how much you lived and how alive your life is.
  • Life doesn’t stop coming. We can choose what comes our way or fight and resist. It will come our way regardless. Better to embrace life and journey through it.
  • My greatest challenge is to live with ambiguity and the unknown. It feels great when I have the sense of control over my life and make choices that result in what I intended. The challenge is to settle into the unknown and manage the ambiguities of life. The better I get at doing this, the less stress I feel. Living with the unknown with grace and ease is the secret sauce to a stress free life.
  • People come first. The relationships I value are more important than money, things, accomplishments and ego. Make sure your choices are in alignment with caring for the people you love. You will never regret these choices—although you may regret choosing otherwise.
  • The older I get, the less important I feel I am. Yes, I know I’m important to the people who love me and I know I’m important in regards to the impact my work has on others. But in an existential sense, I will leave this life one day and life will go on just fine without me. While I hope to have made a positive impact on the world, in the bigger scheme of things, I am not that important. The world (and Universe) is comprised of billions and billions of influences. It continues to exist and evolve as it grows with each passing moment, just like our lives themselves. I’m learning not to take myself or my life too seriously. Perspective is always a gift.

I hope you have found value from my musings on this 55th anniversary of my life. Regardless of what year you are passing through, take the time to reflect on how much life you have lived. Appreciate what you have overcome and what you have created. Your life is brilliant. You are important. Your heart is meant to be shared with others. Happy Birthday!!

Be well,

Julie

If you or someone you know is wanting to create a life filled with purpose and love, please don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

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Monday
Dec142015

Quotes for the Week--Make Your Day a Little Brighter!

I wanted to give you a light hearted quote for the week but I found too many I liked so I thought... why not give you a few!  Enjoy!

I have a simple philosophy: Fill what’s empty. Empty what’s full. Scratch where it itches.-Alice Roosevelt Longworth

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what I start. So far I’ve finished two bags of M&Ms and a chocolate cake. I feel better already. - Dave Barry

Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today. It’s already tomorrow in Australia.-Charles Schulz

If you fall, I’ll always be there. - The Floor

Find the one that resonates with you and go with it. There's nothing better than some solid advice, personal perspective and a good laugh to make the day better.  Have a wonderful week everyone!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know would like to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, please contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Monday
Nov092015

Why Transformation?

Here's an excerpt from The Pathway to Love on the topic of change and transformation.

"The one thing in life we can count on is change. Evolution demands it. The laws of nature support it. This fact of life elicits both assurance and anxiety—anxiety for the lack of control and basic uncertainty, assurance in the fact that “this too, shall pass.”  On the one hand, human beings struggle with change. We resist. It frightens us. So when our relationships call for change and transformation, we react.

On the other hand, human beings are incredibly resilient and adaptable. We transcend crises and challenges all the time. We change when our circumstances demand this. We transform who we are in order to fulfill our potential. So when our relationships call for change and transformation, we respond."

       -The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships Through Self-Discovery - Part Three: Love and Transformation

Take some time this week to reflect on your calling for change and transformation. How do you respond? What are the risks? What are your opportunities?

Let me know what you discover!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Sunday
Aug302015

Transformation Is Not an Event!

Transformation is not an event. It is a process you repeat over and over again as you work toward mastery.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say you want to transform your body. If you go to the gym and work out you don’t expect to have a finely tuned body after one work out. You understand that it takes consistent effort in building muscle, strength, flexibility and stamina. It requires patience and perseverance. You know that putting in the work one day at a time eventually pays off. After weeks and months of taking care of your body, you start to see a real transformation. Suddenly, people start to notice the change as well. Your clothes fit differently. You feel stronger and better. You like the new you. Your commitment grows and the results show accordingly.

Then one day, your boss tells you that you didn’t get the promotion. A close family member dies and you find out your son is using hard drugs. Life immediately becomes extremely stressful and demanding. As you deal with all the challenges and process your feelings, your time spent at the gym dwindles. You know the exercise will help you get through all the stress but the stress has triggered your old ways of coping. Six months later you find your strength and stamina has dwindled. Your clothes are getting tighter and you feel more sluggish. What happened to your transformation? Well, life is what happened.

If you see transformation as an event, you could easily give up. If you understand that transformation is a process, and an imperfect process at that, you will eventually get yourself back to the gym and continue the process. You don’t see it as starting over or regression or failure. You see this as a part of a lifetime journey of transformation.

You can transform many things--your health, beliefs, relationships and lifestyle.

Regardless of what you want to transform for yourself, remember it is an on-going process. You will forever navigate the tensions between old and new, rest and movement, easy and challenging, security and risk.

So make the commitment to living your best life and taking the steps necessary to live the life you choose. This is true transformation.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Monday
Jul202015

A Good Relationship is not a Destination…

A good relationship is not a destination; a good relationship is a process.

We all want to “get there.” We want to put in the work and reap our rewards. We want someone to show us the way, give us the answers and somehow enable us to finally be happy.

Or so we think.

The truth is that a good relationship is process. It begins with becoming aware of who you are, understanding what makes your partner tick, and learning how to navigate the waters of being in relationship with each other. You never become an expert. You never totally get there. There is always more to learn. You will never be perfect at it.

I invite you to consider that you and your partner will stumble from time to time. I invite you to accept that a good relationship requires you to work at it. You can’t be complacent, lazy or take it for granted. You need to put your attention and efforts toward it. And you need to understand that even when you do this, you will never get that happy ending.

So what’s in it for you and yours?

When you commit to learning and living the process, you acquire a relationship muscle, a comfort level with understanding issues and breakdowns that occur within the relationship, and the confidence, know-how and courage to work through them with more ease and grace.

This is the destination. Learning the process, and then learning the process again and again.

The gift from doing so?

Personal power and freedom of choice. And a relationship based on mutual respect, love and intimacy. Go for it!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to learn the process of relationship building, don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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