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Saturday
May092015

Does Our Culture Support Transformational Relationships?

We live in an instant gratification and ‘me first’ culture now more than ever. We also live in a culture that spends more time in virtual spaces connecting with people in superficial ways than creating real relationships face to face. It has led to an increase in bullying, isolation and addiction. 

So when I ask myself the question "Does our culture support creating transformational relationships?" -- I look around and this is what I see. Forgive the cynic in me--she seems to be kicking feverously today.

I see…

  • Websites dedicated to promoting affairs, secrets and betrayals.
  • A porn industry dedicated to creating porn addiction at the expense of intimate connections and relating to real women in real ways
  • Social media where one can have hundreds and thousands of "friends."  I don't know about you but I have trouble maintaining close connections with the dozen or so really close friends around me.
  • An economy that requires two working parents to make ends meet. And for many families, it takes two parents working four jobs collectively to simply pay the rent and put food on the table.
  • A work ethic that does not support real work life balance and a society that believes the harder you work, the longer the workweek, the better you look to your boss. Somehow working yourself to death is a necessary rite of passage to getting a promotion.
  • Family time that now consists of people sitting at a booth at a local restaurant, all of whom are glued to their respective cell phones and not each other. And this now includes the adults at the table, not just the teenagers.
  • The ability to catalog shop for mates as opposed to meeting people through friends, school, work, places of worship and hobbies.

Let’s face it. We have more choices and less satisfaction and real meaning. I long for the days when life was slower, simpler, and less technology driven.

More marriages end in divorce than thrive with time. We are a throwaway society; we replace our electronic devices every four or five years either because they are broken or because we simply want the latest new gadget. It appears we treat our relationships accordingly.

So does our society support transformational relationships? I say no.

What can we do about it? Plenty.

Start with you and yours. Put the needs of your relationships first. Share your delight in doing so with your friends, family and children. Be transparent and pride yourself in your dedication to delaying gratification, demonstrating loyalty, slowing down your life, taking and making time for family and loved ones, understanding that you can't get everything you want when you want but by supporting your relationships first, at the end of the day, you are surrounded by love and belonging.

Let's create a new normal. Let's create a culture that supports transformational relationship. And let it start with us.

Thank you for taking this journey with me. I welcome your thoughts.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you'd like more information on understanding what it takes to create a transformational relationship and navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love .  If you'd like more information on how to work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855.

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As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

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