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Monday
Nov092015

Why Transformation?

Here's an excerpt from The Pathway to Love on the topic of change and transformation.

"The one thing in life we can count on is change. Evolution demands it. The laws of nature support it. This fact of life elicits both assurance and anxiety—anxiety for the lack of control and basic uncertainty, assurance in the fact that “this too, shall pass.”  On the one hand, human beings struggle with change. We resist. It frightens us. So when our relationships call for change and transformation, we react.

On the other hand, human beings are incredibly resilient and adaptable. We transcend crises and challenges all the time. We change when our circumstances demand this. We transform who we are in order to fulfill our potential. So when our relationships call for change and transformation, we respond."

       -The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships Through Self-Discovery - Part Three: Love and Transformation

Take some time this week to reflect on your calling for change and transformation. How do you respond? What are the risks? What are your opportunities?

Let me know what you discover!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Sunday
Aug302015

Transformation Is Not an Event!

Transformation is not an event. It is a process you repeat over and over again as you work toward mastery.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say you want to transform your body. If you go to the gym and work out you don’t expect to have a finely tuned body after one work out. You understand that it takes consistent effort in building muscle, strength, flexibility and stamina. It requires patience and perseverance. You know that putting in the work one day at a time eventually pays off. After weeks and months of taking care of your body, you start to see a real transformation. Suddenly, people start to notice the change as well. Your clothes fit differently. You feel stronger and better. You like the new you. Your commitment grows and the results show accordingly.

Then one day, your boss tells you that you didn’t get the promotion. A close family member dies and you find out your son is using hard drugs. Life immediately becomes extremely stressful and demanding. As you deal with all the challenges and process your feelings, your time spent at the gym dwindles. You know the exercise will help you get through all the stress but the stress has triggered your old ways of coping. Six months later you find your strength and stamina has dwindled. Your clothes are getting tighter and you feel more sluggish. What happened to your transformation? Well, life is what happened.

If you see transformation as an event, you could easily give up. If you understand that transformation is a process, and an imperfect process at that, you will eventually get yourself back to the gym and continue the process. You don’t see it as starting over or regression or failure. You see this as a part of a lifetime journey of transformation.

You can transform many things--your health, beliefs, relationships and lifestyle.

Regardless of what you want to transform for yourself, remember it is an on-going process. You will forever navigate the tensions between old and new, rest and movement, easy and challenging, security and risk.

So make the commitment to living your best life and taking the steps necessary to live the life you choose. This is true transformation.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Sunday
Jun142015

Quote for the Week!

If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.   -An African proverb

It's not a matter of either/or. It's a matter of both/and. We must make the choice of going fast or far every day. Next time you need to choose, choose wisely.

Be well and safe travels,

Julie

P.S. If you'd like more information on understanding what it takes to create a transformational relationship and navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love .  If you'd like more information on how to work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Friday
Jul112014

What is Your Body Telling You?

We spend a lot of time focusing on things outside of ourselves--our spouses, children, friends, work, household chores, etc.  When we focus on life's transitions, they also tend to be external events--anniversaries, graduations, births, deaths, moves, promotions, etc.

However, unless we're dealing with life and death issues, we tend to forget that we our organic in nature. Our bodies have their own transitions and milestones. We go through puberty, pregnancies, illnesses, growth, injuries, menopause (both male and female versions), aging, and eventually, death.  

At times we have more energy and at others, less. There are times when we seem more prone to illness and disease and there are times when we feel strong and invincible.  Our energy has its ebb and flow just as our relationships and our seasons. Some of us are lucky to have good health well into our old age and others find themselves challenged with serious and chronic disease.  

Experts will tell you that your body has its own markers. Some are determined by genetics, others by lifestyle, and others still by chance and fate. Some people teach mind over matter, others teach mind-body connection. Some people preach God's will over genetics, others practice modern medicine, the latest miracle drug and the age defying diet.

Regardless of which truths beckon you, I believe it is important to listen to the wisdom your body holds. If it tells you to rest, rest. If it tells you to be in motion, be in motion. If it tells you to drink water, quench its thirst.  

The body knows more than you think. Learning to listen will give you clues as to what job offer to accept, which people are good for you to have as friends, which invitations to accept and which ones to reject. Your body tells you when danger is near, when you need to slow down and when you need to make that appointment with your doctor.

It's easy to spend time in our heads. It's easy to ignore what our body is telling us until it is too late.

So spend time everyday listening within. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. Honor its wisdom.

If you or someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Friday
Jun132014

Beware of Buyer's Remorse 

There comes a time when you must choose. You must choose which college to attend, which house to buy, if you will get married and to whom, if you will take the new job, if you will buy that car. We are faced with making choices all the time. Most of our choices are relatively small--what do I want to have for dinner, which blouse will I wear today, which project will I work on, etc. However, from time to time we have big choices to make. Choices that have big implications. Choices that usually involve selecting from more than one option.

A funny thing happens when we are forced to "choose."  We become anxious, even obsessed with making the right choice. We struggle to consider all the factors involved with making that decision. For some, choosing something big, new and different is easy. For others, its painstaking. But for most everyone, there is a common phenomenon known as "Buyer's Remorse."

Buyer's remorse is that moment when you realize that what "was" is now gone. It's the moment when you realize there is no going back. The marriage is official, escrow has closed, the relationship has ended, you've quit the old job, you've begun your first day of college.

What is buyer's remorse really about? Why do we suddenly miss our old life? What is at stake when we let go of the past and move on to the future? Aren't we doing this all the time anyways?

To help you navigate through your big "choices," here are a few things to know when it comes to buyer's remorse.

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