What are people saying about The Pathway to Love:

“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

 

More Reviews

You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

Paula Markgraf Katz

Join the Conversation:

  

Blog Index
The journal that this archive was targeting has been deleted. Please update your configuration.

Entries in Quotes on Life (3)

Friday
Mar112016

Lessons Learned as I Turn 55 Today

I remember the day I turned 50. In fact, I believe I wrote a blog about hitting that milestone five short years ago. So as another five years have passed, I can’t help but take the time to reflect.

The past five years have flown by and I can’t believe how different my life is. A lot has happened in just five years. But let’s face it. As I look back on each half decade, I can say the same. A lot happens. Life happens.

In the past five years I have gotten married, buried my mother, bought a house, taken on new and challenging work as a consultant, moved offices and expanded my therapy practice, launched my Pathway to Love books and program, hosted a radio show, had one surgery, launched my children off to college, and adopted one rescue dog. Seems like a lot J.

But if I look back on my years in blocks of decades or half decades, my list would be as extensive as the one listed above—different, but still full. So here is what I’ve concluded from my wise and not so wise 55 years on the planet.

  • Living a life filled with joys and sorrows, old friends and new loves, change and adventures, stagnation and frustration, and challenges and triumphs, is a life worth living. Appreciate looking back on your half decades with awe in how much you lived and how alive your life is.
  • Life doesn’t stop coming. We can choose what comes our way or fight and resist. It will come our way regardless. Better to embrace life and journey through it.
  • My greatest challenge is to live with ambiguity and the unknown. It feels great when I have the sense of control over my life and make choices that result in what I intended. The challenge is to settle into the unknown and manage the ambiguities of life. The better I get at doing this, the less stress I feel. Living with the unknown with grace and ease is the secret sauce to a stress free life.
  • People come first. The relationships I value are more important than money, things, accomplishments and ego. Make sure your choices are in alignment with caring for the people you love. You will never regret these choices—although you may regret choosing otherwise.
  • The older I get, the less important I feel I am. Yes, I know I’m important to the people who love me and I know I’m important in regards to the impact my work has on others. But in an existential sense, I will leave this life one day and life will go on just fine without me. While I hope to have made a positive impact on the world, in the bigger scheme of things, I am not that important. The world (and Universe) is comprised of billions and billions of influences. It continues to exist and evolve as it grows with each passing moment, just like our lives themselves. I’m learning not to take myself or my life too seriously. Perspective is always a gift.

I hope you have found value from my musings on this 55th anniversary of my life. Regardless of what year you are passing through, take the time to reflect on how much life you have lived. Appreciate what you have overcome and what you have created. Your life is brilliant. You are important. Your heart is meant to be shared with others. Happy Birthday!!

Be well,

Julie

If you or someone you know is wanting to create a life filled with purpose and love, please don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

Click to read more ...

Sunday
Oct192014

Are you up for an experiment? I challenge you to live like Charles Schultz!

Charles Schultz was a lucky man. Read why.

 "My life has no purpose, no direction, no aim, no meaning, and yet I’m happy. I can’t figure it out. What am I doing right?" – Charles Schultz

I think the reason why Charles Schultz lived his life as a happy man was because he purposely avoided over thinking--the meaning of life--his life. We spend a lot of time thinking--thinking about what happened in the past, what it meant, what is happening to us right now, how can we overcome it, what will happen in the future and how we can control it.

I know we all have a frontal cortex that is designed to do just that. But really, don't you think we over think things a bit too much? Maybe our frontal cortex is responsible for our unhappiness? Maybe we'd all be better off if we just didn't try to be so smart and so clever in figuring things out. Just possibly Charles got it right. No meaning, no purpose. Just life.

I say let's give it a try. For one week, stop living your life in pursuit of anything. Don't over think it. Just live.

Let me know how it goes!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. As always, I’m here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

Click to read more ...

Monday
Aug112014

My Favorite Quote for the Week

"A happy childhood is the worst possible preparation for life" - Richard S. Friedman

I love this quote. Not only is it true, it reflects the true meaning of life. So many people dream of a day when they win the lottery, fall in love, or retire to that perfect fantasy life. The fantasy is that if we had it easy, if things were magically "handled" for us, if we had no worries, then we would find our ultimate happiness.  The truth is our life has meaning, texture and character all because we DON"T have it easy all the time, things are not magically handled for us and we have worries and struggles throughout our lives. It is in those moments when we are challenged that our lives become alive, evolve and transform before our very eyes.

No one said life was easy. It's not. But easy doesn't mean fulfilling and satisfying. So today, look back on your life and appreciate where you've been and how you've become the person you are today. I guarantee it was not because you had it easy. It was not because everything was handed to you on a silver platter. It was because you overcame struggles, learned your lessons the hard way and celebrated those sweet moments of triumph even more so because of it.

Here's to your life--a life well lived.  Now go take on the day!

Be well,
Julie

If you are someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

Create Relationships in Your Life That Work — learn more at www.julieorlov.com

Click to read more ...