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Sunday
Dec202015

7 Questions to Ask Yourself at This Time of Year

The holiday season is a great time for reflection. It is a time to look back on all your challenges and accomplishments in the past year. It is also a good time to connect and reconnect with those people you love. And, it is the time to reflect on those relationships, decisions and life choices that need reconsideration.

Here are some guiding questions to help you with the process.

  1. Do the people I love and value know how much I love and value them? If not, what can I do to make sure that happens?
  2. Am I dedicating enough time and energy to those things in my life that I value? If not, what changes can I make to create more alignment between my values/passions and time/energy spent?
  3. Are there relationships and life choices which are no longer working for me? If so, what can I do to let go of what is not working and work toward creating what will?
  4. Do I have the courage to make the changes I need to create a life filled with purpose, passion and contribution to others? If not, what resources can I draw from to help me live life more courageously?
  5. What support system to I need to create in order to make powerful choices and take action?
  6. How can I continue to grow and heal? Do I need to get help in order to do so? Remember, we can’t always do it alone.
  7. Am I committed to creating transformational relationships? If so, what do I have in place that helps keep my commitment and momentum alive?

Take the time over the holidays to reflect. Be open to what you discover. And remember, I’m here to help you create the life you choose.

Wishing you a wonderful holiday season and a safe and happy New Year.

Julie

P.S. I will be taking some time off to reflect and restore as well. I will be away from the office until Monday January 4th.

P.S.S. If you or someone you know needs help with creating strong and intimate relationships as well as a life that feels fulfilling, please don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Monday
Dec142015

Quotes for the Week--Make Your Day a Little Brighter!

I wanted to give you a light hearted quote for the week but I found too many I liked so I thought... why not give you a few!  Enjoy!

I have a simple philosophy: Fill what’s empty. Empty what’s full. Scratch where it itches.-Alice Roosevelt Longworth

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what I start. So far I’ve finished two bags of M&Ms and a chocolate cake. I feel better already. - Dave Barry

Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today. It’s already tomorrow in Australia.-Charles Schulz

If you fall, I’ll always be there. - The Floor

Find the one that resonates with you and go with it. There's nothing better than some solid advice, personal perspective and a good laugh to make the day better.  Have a wonderful week everyone!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know would like to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, please contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Thursday
Oct082015

Inspirational Quote for the Week!

"You can retire from a job, but don't ever retire from making extremely meaningful contributions in life."
 -- Steve Covey

We traverse many transitions throughout our lifetime--from childhood to adulthood, from single to married, from adult to parent, from career A to career B, and from career B to retirement. No matter what type of transition you face, make it meaningful--meaningful to you, your loved ones, your community and the world.

It doesn't matter what kind of work you do, how much money you make or what interests you pursue. It only matters that you have purpose. Create each chapter from the perspective of defining your purpose and making that purpose meaningful to yourself and others. In doing so, you protect yourself from depression and despair. By rejecting complacency, you inspire others to bring more light into the world. 

The world needs you. Don't let us down. Be your best self.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know would like to create more meaning and purpose in their life, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Sunday
Aug302015

Transformation Is Not an Event!

Transformation is not an event. It is a process you repeat over and over again as you work toward mastery.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say you want to transform your body. If you go to the gym and work out you don’t expect to have a finely tuned body after one work out. You understand that it takes consistent effort in building muscle, strength, flexibility and stamina. It requires patience and perseverance. You know that putting in the work one day at a time eventually pays off. After weeks and months of taking care of your body, you start to see a real transformation. Suddenly, people start to notice the change as well. Your clothes fit differently. You feel stronger and better. You like the new you. Your commitment grows and the results show accordingly.

Then one day, your boss tells you that you didn’t get the promotion. A close family member dies and you find out your son is using hard drugs. Life immediately becomes extremely stressful and demanding. As you deal with all the challenges and process your feelings, your time spent at the gym dwindles. You know the exercise will help you get through all the stress but the stress has triggered your old ways of coping. Six months later you find your strength and stamina has dwindled. Your clothes are getting tighter and you feel more sluggish. What happened to your transformation? Well, life is what happened.

If you see transformation as an event, you could easily give up. If you understand that transformation is a process, and an imperfect process at that, you will eventually get yourself back to the gym and continue the process. You don’t see it as starting over or regression or failure. You see this as a part of a lifetime journey of transformation.

You can transform many things--your health, beliefs, relationships and lifestyle.

Regardless of what you want to transform for yourself, remember it is an on-going process. You will forever navigate the tensions between old and new, rest and movement, easy and challenging, security and risk.

So make the commitment to living your best life and taking the steps necessary to live the life you choose. This is true transformation.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Saturday
Mar072015

Take a Leap of Faith!

You want to make a change. You believe your life has become stagnant. Your relationship is beginning to bore you.  You still haven't gone after your dreams and you believe time is running out. These thoughts will inevitably pass through your mind at various times in your life. The question is not wondering if your thoughts are valid, because they are. The question is what will you do about it.

You need to decide if you will let these feelings pass (and eventually they will on their own) or if you will take action and make a change. There's really no right or wrong choice, there's simply a time to choose. But before you choose to ignore that tugging feeling that tells you something needs to shift, I invite you to take a look at what is most likely stopping you from taking a risk and creating change.

Some may say that your reasons for wanting a change are impractical, irrational, or unreasonable. Some may warn you that you're better off with what you have than risking the unknown. Others will convince you that your desires are childish and irresponsible. You, yourself will create doubt and uncertainty as to the reasons behind your restlessness or the validity of what you want to do.  The bottom line is you and your well meaning friends and family are experiencing the same thing... Fear.

So how do you overcome your fear? There's only one simple answer. You take a leap of faith. I know that some of you are assuming I mean you trust that God or the Universe or Whatever will be watching over you and taking care of you and your choices. And there's nothing wrong with defining that statement in that way. But I'm talking about a different kind of faith--the faith I'm referring to is faith in YOURSELF.

Here's what's important for you to remember about yourself when you're feeling scared about change.

  • You have been through many changes in your life already and have survived each and every one of them.
  • You have fallen down more than once, picked yourself up off the ground, and moved on until life became more manageable.
  • You have developed a support system whether you know it or not. There has been someone somewhere who has helped you during times of crisis, change and uncertainty.
  • You know how to ask for help and accept help when you need it.
  • You have coping skills that have been developing since you were born. You have more of them than you realize.
  • You learn from your experiences (you can't help but do this as your brain is hard-wired to) and apply those learnings to other things.
  • You know that most things in life are worth the risk--love, adventure, joy, accomplishments, growth.
  • You know that without change, growth does not occur; without growth, things wither and die.
  • You know that you can't control much but what you can control can make a difference to yourself and others.
  • You know that even with risk, you may not get to your desired destination.
  • You also know that some of the best destinations are unplanned.


Take a leap of faith today...in yourself.

Believe in your ability to create, learn, problem-solve, adapt, deal with disappointment and celebrate life.

Be bold. Take a leap of faith. Jump into your next adventure.

Be well,
Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to make a change in their life, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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