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Thursday
Oct082015

Inspirational Quote for the Week!

"You can retire from a job, but don't ever retire from making extremely meaningful contributions in life."
 -- Steve Covey

We traverse many transitions throughout our lifetime--from childhood to adulthood, from single to married, from adult to parent, from career A to career B, and from career B to retirement. No matter what type of transition you face, make it meaningful--meaningful to you, your loved ones, your community and the world.

It doesn't matter what kind of work you do, how much money you make or what interests you pursue. It only matters that you have purpose. Create each chapter from the perspective of defining your purpose and making that purpose meaningful to yourself and others. In doing so, you protect yourself from depression and despair. By rejecting complacency, you inspire others to bring more light into the world. 

The world needs you. Don't let us down. Be your best self.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know would like to create more meaning and purpose in their life, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

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Sunday
Aug302015

Transformation Is Not an Event!

Transformation is not an event. It is a process you repeat over and over again as you work toward mastery.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say you want to transform your body. If you go to the gym and work out you don’t expect to have a finely tuned body after one work out. You understand that it takes consistent effort in building muscle, strength, flexibility and stamina. It requires patience and perseverance. You know that putting in the work one day at a time eventually pays off. After weeks and months of taking care of your body, you start to see a real transformation. Suddenly, people start to notice the change as well. Your clothes fit differently. You feel stronger and better. You like the new you. Your commitment grows and the results show accordingly.

Then one day, your boss tells you that you didn’t get the promotion. A close family member dies and you find out your son is using hard drugs. Life immediately becomes extremely stressful and demanding. As you deal with all the challenges and process your feelings, your time spent at the gym dwindles. You know the exercise will help you get through all the stress but the stress has triggered your old ways of coping. Six months later you find your strength and stamina has dwindled. Your clothes are getting tighter and you feel more sluggish. What happened to your transformation? Well, life is what happened.

If you see transformation as an event, you could easily give up. If you understand that transformation is a process, and an imperfect process at that, you will eventually get yourself back to the gym and continue the process. You don’t see it as starting over or regression or failure. You see this as a part of a lifetime journey of transformation.

You can transform many things--your health, beliefs, relationships and lifestyle.

Regardless of what you want to transform for yourself, remember it is an on-going process. You will forever navigate the tensions between old and new, rest and movement, easy and challenging, security and risk.

So make the commitment to living your best life and taking the steps necessary to live the life you choose. This is true transformation.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

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Monday
Jul202015

A Good Relationship is not a Destination…

A good relationship is not a destination; a good relationship is a process.

We all want to “get there.” We want to put in the work and reap our rewards. We want someone to show us the way, give us the answers and somehow enable us to finally be happy.

Or so we think.

The truth is that a good relationship is process. It begins with becoming aware of who you are, understanding what makes your partner tick, and learning how to navigate the waters of being in relationship with each other. You never become an expert. You never totally get there. There is always more to learn. You will never be perfect at it.

I invite you to consider that you and your partner will stumble from time to time. I invite you to accept that a good relationship requires you to work at it. You can’t be complacent, lazy or take it for granted. You need to put your attention and efforts toward it. And you need to understand that even when you do this, you will never get that happy ending.

So what’s in it for you and yours?

When you commit to learning and living the process, you acquire a relationship muscle, a comfort level with understanding issues and breakdowns that occur within the relationship, and the confidence, know-how and courage to work through them with more ease and grace.

This is the destination. Learning the process, and then learning the process again and again.

The gift from doing so?

Personal power and freedom of choice. And a relationship based on mutual respect, love and intimacy. Go for it!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to learn the process of relationship building, don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Saturday
Mar072015

Take a Leap of Faith!

You want to make a change. You believe your life has become stagnant. Your relationship is beginning to bore you.  You still haven't gone after your dreams and you believe time is running out. These thoughts will inevitably pass through your mind at various times in your life. The question is not wondering if your thoughts are valid, because they are. The question is what will you do about it.

You need to decide if you will let these feelings pass (and eventually they will on their own) or if you will take action and make a change. There's really no right or wrong choice, there's simply a time to choose. But before you choose to ignore that tugging feeling that tells you something needs to shift, I invite you to take a look at what is most likely stopping you from taking a risk and creating change.

Some may say that your reasons for wanting a change are impractical, irrational, or unreasonable. Some may warn you that you're better off with what you have than risking the unknown. Others will convince you that your desires are childish and irresponsible. You, yourself will create doubt and uncertainty as to the reasons behind your restlessness or the validity of what you want to do.  The bottom line is you and your well meaning friends and family are experiencing the same thing... Fear.

So how do you overcome your fear? There's only one simple answer. You take a leap of faith. I know that some of you are assuming I mean you trust that God or the Universe or Whatever will be watching over you and taking care of you and your choices. And there's nothing wrong with defining that statement in that way. But I'm talking about a different kind of faith--the faith I'm referring to is faith in YOURSELF.

Here's what's important for you to remember about yourself when you're feeling scared about change.

  • You have been through many changes in your life already and have survived each and every one of them.
  • You have fallen down more than once, picked yourself up off the ground, and moved on until life became more manageable.
  • You have developed a support system whether you know it or not. There has been someone somewhere who has helped you during times of crisis, change and uncertainty.
  • You know how to ask for help and accept help when you need it.
  • You have coping skills that have been developing since you were born. You have more of them than you realize.
  • You learn from your experiences (you can't help but do this as your brain is hard-wired to) and apply those learnings to other things.
  • You know that most things in life are worth the risk--love, adventure, joy, accomplishments, growth.
  • You know that without change, growth does not occur; without growth, things wither and die.
  • You know that you can't control much but what you can control can make a difference to yourself and others.
  • You know that even with risk, you may not get to your desired destination.
  • You also know that some of the best destinations are unplanned.


Take a leap of faith today...in yourself.

Believe in your ability to create, learn, problem-solve, adapt, deal with disappointment and celebrate life.

Be bold. Take a leap of faith. Jump into your next adventure.

Be well,
Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to make a change in their life, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Sunday
Dec292013

Taking Time To Reflect on Past, Present and Future

As we get closer to the end of the year, this is the time we naturally reflect back on what occurred during the past year and what we want in the year to come. I personally love this ritual and think it is so important that you engage in this as well. Whether you use your birthday, a major life event, your favorite time of year, or the more traditional New Year's celebration, doesn't matter to me--just as long as you take some time every year to reflect on what has been, what is, and what you'd like to create here on out.

To help you with this process, I've provided some guiding questions and sample responses. I've also given you two guiding activities to anchor the experience.

First, ask yourself the following: 

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