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Lessons Learned as I Turn 55 Today

I remember the day I turned 50. In fact, I believe I wrote a blog about hitting that milestone five short years ago. So as another five years have passed, I can’t help but take the time to reflect.

The past five years have flown by and I can’t believe how different my life is. A lot has happened in just five years. But let’s face it. As I look back on each half decade, I can say the same. A lot happens. Life happens.

In the past five years I have gotten married, buried my mother, bought a house, taken on new and challenging work as a consultant, moved offices and expanded my therapy practice, launched my Pathway to Love books and program, hosted a radio show, had one surgery, launched my children off to college, and adopted one rescue dog. Seems like a lot J.

But if I look back on my years in blocks of decades or half decades, my list would be as extensive as the one listed above—different, but still full. So here is what I’ve concluded from my wise and not so wise 55 years on the planet.

  • Living a life filled with joys and sorrows, old friends and new loves, change and adventures, stagnation and frustration, and challenges and triumphs, is a life worth living. Appreciate looking back on your half decades with awe in how much you lived and how alive your life is.
  • Life doesn’t stop coming. We can choose what comes our way or fight and resist. It will come our way regardless. Better to embrace life and journey through it.
  • My greatest challenge is to live with ambiguity and the unknown. It feels great when I have the sense of control over my life and make choices that result in what I intended. The challenge is to settle into the unknown and manage the ambiguities of life. The better I get at doing this, the less stress I feel. Living with the unknown with grace and ease is the secret sauce to a stress free life.
  • People come first. The relationships I value are more important than money, things, accomplishments and ego. Make sure your choices are in alignment with caring for the people you love. You will never regret these choices—although you may regret choosing otherwise.
  • The older I get, the less important I feel I am. Yes, I know I’m important to the people who love me and I know I’m important in regards to the impact my work has on others. But in an existential sense, I will leave this life one day and life will go on just fine without me. While I hope to have made a positive impact on the world, in the bigger scheme of things, I am not that important. The world (and Universe) is comprised of billions and billions of influences. It continues to exist and evolve as it grows with each passing moment, just like our lives themselves. I’m learning not to take myself or my life too seriously. Perspective is always a gift.

I hope you have found value from my musings on this 55th anniversary of my life. Regardless of what year you are passing through, take the time to reflect on how much life you have lived. Appreciate what you have overcome and what you have created. Your life is brilliant. You are important. Your heart is meant to be shared with others. Happy Birthday!!

Be well,


If you or someone you know is wanting to create a life filled with purpose and love, please don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

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What is Your Body Telling You?

We spend a lot of time focusing on things outside of ourselves--our spouses, children, friends, work, household chores, etc.  When we focus on life's transitions, they also tend to be external events--anniversaries, graduations, births, deaths, moves, promotions, etc.

However, unless we're dealing with life and death issues, we tend to forget that we our organic in nature. Our bodies have their own transitions and milestones. We go through puberty, pregnancies, illnesses, growth, injuries, menopause (both male and female versions), aging, and eventually, death.  

At times we have more energy and at others, less. There are times when we seem more prone to illness and disease and there are times when we feel strong and invincible.  Our energy has its ebb and flow just as our relationships and our seasons. Some of us are lucky to have good health well into our old age and others find themselves challenged with serious and chronic disease.  

Experts will tell you that your body has its own markers. Some are determined by genetics, others by lifestyle, and others still by chance and fate. Some people teach mind over matter, others teach mind-body connection. Some people preach God's will over genetics, others practice modern medicine, the latest miracle drug and the age defying diet.

Regardless of which truths beckon you, I believe it is important to listen to the wisdom your body holds. If it tells you to rest, rest. If it tells you to be in motion, be in motion. If it tells you to drink water, quench its thirst.  

The body knows more than you think. Learning to listen will give you clues as to what job offer to accept, which people are good for you to have as friends, which invitations to accept and which ones to reject. Your body tells you when danger is near, when you need to slow down and when you need to make that appointment with your doctor.

It's easy to spend time in our heads. It's easy to ignore what our body is telling us until it is too late.

So spend time everyday listening within. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. Honor its wisdom.

If you or someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Be well,


Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Making Your Dreams Come True

There are so many milestones that come whether you are ready or not. You will turn 40; you will bury your parents; you will graduate high school; you will buy your first “fill in the blank.” There are anniversaries to celebrate, births to welcome, and transitions galore as you journey through your life. Your relationships will find their own milestones as you share your life with the people you love. Some relationships will last a lifetime and some won’t. But today I want to share with you the magic of marking your own milestone by making a dream come true. Today, I want to acknowledge and share one of my own. I hope you don’t mind my indulgence. My hope is that I inspire you to do the same.

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