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Entries in marriage (11)

Monday
Jul202015

A Good Relationship is not a Destination…

A good relationship is not a destination; a good relationship is a process.

We all want to “get there.” We want to put in the work and reap our rewards. We want someone to show us the way, give us the answers and somehow enable us to finally be happy.

Or so we think.

The truth is that a good relationship is process. It begins with becoming aware of who you are, understanding what makes your partner tick, and learning how to navigate the waters of being in relationship with each other. You never become an expert. You never totally get there. There is always more to learn. You will never be perfect at it.

I invite you to consider that you and your partner will stumble from time to time. I invite you to accept that a good relationship requires you to work at it. You can’t be complacent, lazy or take it for granted. You need to put your attention and efforts toward it. And you need to understand that even when you do this, you will never get that happy ending.

So what’s in it for you and yours?

When you commit to learning and living the process, you acquire a relationship muscle, a comfort level with understanding issues and breakdowns that occur within the relationship, and the confidence, know-how and courage to work through them with more ease and grace.

This is the destination. Learning the process, and then learning the process again and again.

The gift from doing so?

Personal power and freedom of choice. And a relationship based on mutual respect, love and intimacy. Go for it!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to learn the process of relationship building, don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Saturday
Nov092013

Another year has passed...

Every year about this time I remind everyone to watch The Pathway to Love video. This video presents the four phases of a developing relationship in an educational and entertaining way. You get to watch a couple's relationship move through the four phases while I describe the issues, tasks and gifts inherent in each phase.  It is a journey that will make you smile, laugh and nod as you relate to all the things that couples go through as they travel from the first time they meet to creating a committed relationship based on deep intimacy and true love.

This video means a lot to me. Not only does it serve as a wonderful way to understand and experience the four phases of The Pathway to Love, it was for me, a personal labor of love. Many wonderful friends and colleagues volunteered their time, talent, and resources in the making of this video. I was incredibly blessed to have so many with so much talent stand by my side while creating a story that teaches, touches and inspires others to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of their lives.

In particular, I take this time of year to acknowledge Terrence Wing, a real life angel, who passed away on December 1, 2011. Terrence was my role model of what it means to be a friend, mentor and professional. He was instrumental in the making of this video. He was the director, editor and videographer. He brought heart and integrity to everything he did and never expected anything in return. All he wanted was for me to be successful. He was a champion to so many and continues to be missed by all who knew him.

So if you've never experienced The Pathway to Love video or have not watched it recently, I encourage you to take 10 minutes and enjoy!

And when you do, send a smile off to Terrence!

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Sunday
Jul142013

Relationship Help Q&A Video "My Ex has Cancer and I feel... I'm a bad person for feeling this way?"

Relationship Help Q&A Video "My Ex has Cancer and I feel justice has been served. I'm a bad person for feeling this way?"

Watch and learn as Julie Orlov answers your love and relationship questions. Today's questions deals with anger and resentment toward your ex -- even if he or she has a life threatening illness! Learn how to let go, forgive, and move on rather than hold on to your resentment and indulge your fantasies of revenge.

Watch the video on YouTube or directly on my blog (Click Read in Browser to connect)

http://youtu.be/cuZkVb0UE1k

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Sunday
Jun162013

Is Your Spouse Your Roommate or Your Lover?

You can't believe it's summer already. Another school year has gone by. You are trying to decide where to go on vacation and any idea you have seems like a lot of effort. If you're really honest, the idea of a family vacation seems exhausting. Taking a long weekend away by yourself sounds so much more enticing. You look across the kitchen table at your husband. He is busy writing out checks and reminds you that he will be working late next week so you will need to pick up the kids from their various afternoon activities.

Things are comfortable between the two of you. After all, you’ve been married for almost two decades. The household runs smoothly. The kids' needs are taken care of. But you realize that you and your husband have settled into a life together that feels more like roommates and less like lovers. Over the years your sex life has slowly withered away to an early morning quickie every other month or so.  You think back on the days when your sex life was good. You made an effort to wear sexy lingerie—he made an effort to seduce you in the ways you liked—you both made an effort to mix it up and have fun. Now it seems like passion is the last thing on your minds, settling instead for a comfy night on the couch watching TV until it's time to get some sleep. And while you still have warm feelings for your spouse, that flame seems almost extinguished. Tonight as you sit across from your husband, you feel lonely, longing to reignite some passion—longing to look at him as your lover, once again.

If this scenario sounds familiar, you are not alone. Many couples after some years have gone by, or when the kids have moved out, look at each other as if they were compatible roommates. And for many, there comes a time when that comfort level is no longer acceptable. Couples hit a cross road every few years and for most couples, this cross road will be met at least once, if not more, throughout the lifetime of their relationship.

If you are experiencing the roommate blues, here are five things you can do to bring passion back into your relationship. Click Read in Browser to access full article

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Friday
May172013

When Is It Time to Pop the Question and Say Yes?! 

I was thinking the other day about marriage. My marriage—or better stated—my future marriage—or not. I have been living with my significant other for over a year and the question of if and when to take the next step has been on my mind. I have been married before and know what it’s like to have a good marriage, an okay marriage, a bad marriage, and an even worse divorce. Since my divorce, I’ve gone through stages when I’ve been fairly certain that a second marriage was unnecessary, especially since I have raised two children on my own.  I’ve also gone through stages where the idea of being married one more time seemed appealing and desirable (remember, I did have a few good years with my ex-husband and know what a good marriage feels like).

Deciding if and when to get married is a serious matter. And if you are a veteran of one or more marriages that have ended in divorce, the decision weighs more heavily. You know what it takes to divorce—it is not for the faint of heart. And if you have never been married, you are certainly aware of the fact that over half of all marriages end in divorce—and have probably witnessed a friend’s or family member’s ugly divorce at some point in time. 

So I started to think about what would have to be in place in order for me to take that next step. I also started to think about what my significant other would have to have in place before he was ready to take the next step. Then I thought of all of you. After all, you have entrusted me in providing you guidance and wisdom on how to navigate your relationships. The least I can do is share with you what I’ve come to understand about myself and the question of marriage...

...So I decided to tackle the question of “Do I want to get married?”...

To help you make this life altering decision, I've come up with my top ten questions to ask yourself—and your significant other.... Click Read in Browser to read full article

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