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Sunday
Dec202015

7 Questions to Ask Yourself at This Time of Year

The holiday season is a great time for reflection. It is a time to look back on all your challenges and accomplishments in the past year. It is also a good time to connect and reconnect with those people you love. And, it is the time to reflect on those relationships, decisions and life choices that need reconsideration.

Here are some guiding questions to help you with the process.

  1. Do the people I love and value know how much I love and value them? If not, what can I do to make sure that happens?
  2. Am I dedicating enough time and energy to those things in my life that I value? If not, what changes can I make to create more alignment between my values/passions and time/energy spent?
  3. Are there relationships and life choices which are no longer working for me? If so, what can I do to let go of what is not working and work toward creating what will?
  4. Do I have the courage to make the changes I need to create a life filled with purpose, passion and contribution to others? If not, what resources can I draw from to help me live life more courageously?
  5. What support system to I need to create in order to make powerful choices and take action?
  6. How can I continue to grow and heal? Do I need to get help in order to do so? Remember, we can’t always do it alone.
  7. Am I committed to creating transformational relationships? If so, what do I have in place that helps keep my commitment and momentum alive?

Take the time over the holidays to reflect. Be open to what you discover. And remember, I’m here to help you create the life you choose.

Wishing you a wonderful holiday season and a safe and happy New Year.

Julie

P.S. I will be taking some time off to reflect and restore as well. I will be away from the office until Monday January 4th.

P.S.S. If you or someone you know needs help with creating strong and intimate relationships as well as a life that feels fulfilling, please don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Sunday
Aug302015

Transformation Is Not an Event!

Transformation is not an event. It is a process you repeat over and over again as you work toward mastery.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say you want to transform your body. If you go to the gym and work out you don’t expect to have a finely tuned body after one work out. You understand that it takes consistent effort in building muscle, strength, flexibility and stamina. It requires patience and perseverance. You know that putting in the work one day at a time eventually pays off. After weeks and months of taking care of your body, you start to see a real transformation. Suddenly, people start to notice the change as well. Your clothes fit differently. You feel stronger and better. You like the new you. Your commitment grows and the results show accordingly.

Then one day, your boss tells you that you didn’t get the promotion. A close family member dies and you find out your son is using hard drugs. Life immediately becomes extremely stressful and demanding. As you deal with all the challenges and process your feelings, your time spent at the gym dwindles. You know the exercise will help you get through all the stress but the stress has triggered your old ways of coping. Six months later you find your strength and stamina has dwindled. Your clothes are getting tighter and you feel more sluggish. What happened to your transformation? Well, life is what happened.

If you see transformation as an event, you could easily give up. If you understand that transformation is a process, and an imperfect process at that, you will eventually get yourself back to the gym and continue the process. You don’t see it as starting over or regression or failure. You see this as a part of a lifetime journey of transformation.

You can transform many things--your health, beliefs, relationships and lifestyle.

Regardless of what you want to transform for yourself, remember it is an on-going process. You will forever navigate the tensions between old and new, rest and movement, easy and challenging, security and risk.

So make the commitment to living your best life and taking the steps necessary to live the life you choose. This is true transformation.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Sunday
Jun142015

Quote for the Week!

If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.   -An African proverb

It's not a matter of either/or. It's a matter of both/and. We must make the choice of going fast or far every day. Next time you need to choose, choose wisely.

Be well and safe travels,

Julie

P.S. If you'd like more information on understanding what it takes to create a transformational relationship and navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love .  If you'd like more information on how to work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Monday
Aug112014

My Favorite Quote for the Week

"A happy childhood is the worst possible preparation for life" - Richard S. Friedman

I love this quote. Not only is it true, it reflects the true meaning of life. So many people dream of a day when they win the lottery, fall in love, or retire to that perfect fantasy life. The fantasy is that if we had it easy, if things were magically "handled" for us, if we had no worries, then we would find our ultimate happiness.  The truth is our life has meaning, texture and character all because we DON"T have it easy all the time, things are not magically handled for us and we have worries and struggles throughout our lives. It is in those moments when we are challenged that our lives become alive, evolve and transform before our very eyes.

No one said life was easy. It's not. But easy doesn't mean fulfilling and satisfying. So today, look back on your life and appreciate where you've been and how you've become the person you are today. I guarantee it was not because you had it easy. It was not because everything was handed to you on a silver platter. It was because you overcame struggles, learned your lessons the hard way and celebrated those sweet moments of triumph even more so because of it.

Here's to your life--a life well lived.  Now go take on the day!

Be well,
Julie

If you are someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Friday
Jun132014

Beware of Buyer's Remorse 

There comes a time when you must choose. You must choose which college to attend, which house to buy, if you will get married and to whom, if you will take the new job, if you will buy that car. We are faced with making choices all the time. Most of our choices are relatively small--what do I want to have for dinner, which blouse will I wear today, which project will I work on, etc. However, from time to time we have big choices to make. Choices that have big implications. Choices that usually involve selecting from more than one option.

A funny thing happens when we are forced to "choose."  We become anxious, even obsessed with making the right choice. We struggle to consider all the factors involved with making that decision. For some, choosing something big, new and different is easy. For others, its painstaking. But for most everyone, there is a common phenomenon known as "Buyer's Remorse."

Buyer's remorse is that moment when you realize that what "was" is now gone. It's the moment when you realize there is no going back. The marriage is official, escrow has closed, the relationship has ended, you've quit the old job, you've begun your first day of college.

What is buyer's remorse really about? Why do we suddenly miss our old life? What is at stake when we let go of the past and move on to the future? Aren't we doing this all the time anyways?

To help you navigate through your big "choices," here are a few things to know when it comes to buyer's remorse.

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