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Entries in loss (6)

Sunday
Apr242016

Breaking Up? Understand What You Are Really Losing

Breakups are painful. It really doesn’t matter if you’re losing someone you’ve known for six months or six years. When you love someone and want a relationship to work, accepting the loss is painstaking. While I would never discount the reality of how important another human being is to another, losing a relationship is complex. In reality, you are losing much more than the person you’ve come to know as your significant other. That is why loss can take many turns and go down varying depths. Here are some examples of what you may be losing in addition to the person and relationship you valued.

You may be losing

  • The fantasy of what you thought this relationship would be.
  • The hope that you would never feel lonely or unlovable again.
  • The sense of security, financial or otherwise.
  • Physical touch, sexual intimacy and affection.
  • The family you’ve created as you know it to be.
  • The feeling of being “okay” in the eyes of society.
  • A sense of power or control.
  • The belief that life is fair and just.
  • The belief that love conquers all (and any other beliefs you had on life and love).
  • A way to avoid being self-reliant or fully empowered (or any other things about yourself or life that scare you).
  • A way of life and all the perks that go with being in a committed intimate relationship. This may include cooking, cleaning, nursing, home repairs, travel companionship, and overall support in handling everyday life.
  • Someone with whom you’ve shared your heart, your soul and your life—a friend and lover—someone you will miss—even though you know the relationship was not meant to be.

If you are going through a loss, give yourself time to grieve all the loses this breakup entails. Get the support you deserve. And remember, this too will pass.

If you or someone you or someone you know is going through a breakup, don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

Be well,

Julie

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Saturday
Apr112015

Change is in the Air! What you need to do to make it work.

What changes have been happening in your life? Are you starting a new job or business venture? Have you moved? Starting to date someone new? Starting over all together?  Life changes are both exciting and challenging at the same time. They require letting go of the old, defining the new, and dealing with the unknown as you say goodbye to the past and get comfortable with your new future.

Changes and times of transition offer us tremendous opportunities to expand and grow. We discover things that empower us and things that humble us.

If you are dealing with a challenging change, get the support you deserve. Big changes require a team approach. Decide who you want on your change team and how they will support you in successfully navigating the transition. Some examples of team members include friends, mentors, advisors, coaches, counselors, family members and specific people who have specific skill-sets and professional know-how. Whoever you decide to include on your team, make sure you build your team. Don't go at alone. If you don't, you will be more stressed and less likely to succeed.

Having the right people in the right place at the right time ensures your success and well-being.

Life is full of change and my life is no exception. It seems like just when I've settled in from one change, I'm off to the next. My latest news?

I'm pleased to announce that I've moved to a new and beautiful office in Hermosa Beach. But before you start wondering where it is, you won't have to look far. Our new office is just across the hall from the old office--we're now at 2615 Pacific Coast Highway, Suite 327 Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.

The good news is that the new offices enable me to accommodate more psychotherapy and coaching clients. So if you've been putting off taking the time to take care of yourself, your relationship and your life--this is the time to take action. Give me a call at 310-379-5855310-379-5855  and start creating the life you choose. I work with individuals, couples and and families. And whether you are feeling anxious, depressed, frustrated or resigned, there really is a way to shift the way you live your life and relate to others that results in more fulfillment and satisfaction.

Not in the Los Angeles area? No problem. I work via phone or Skype for those that are not able to come to the office. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised how effective a virtual session can be. I've been doing this work for over 25 years and some of the most powerful and impactful sessions I've had with clients have been conducted by phone.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

Be well,

Julie 

About Me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About Your Relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz,

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Sunday
Sep142014

A Encore of Julie Orlov Q&A on Love and Relationships: Why was my ex able to move on so quickly?

Watch this weeks “Ask an Expert” video as Julie Orlov answers your questions on love and relationships. Today's question is "Why was my ex able to move on so quickly?" Did our 15 year marriage mean anything?"

Going through a divorce is hard. When an ex-spouse remarries, it is common for the other party to have some feelings—even if they were the one that wanted the divorce in the first place. A lot of feelings come up, including jealousy, resentment, hurt, and a final layer of loss. If an ex gets remarried immediately after the divorce papers are signed, it can elicit other questions as well.

Today’s question addresses these issues. Watch and learn the different ways people mourn and let go during the process of divorce and what it does and does not mean if your ex remarries quickly.

Click Read in Browser to watch the video on my blog or click the link below to watch this and other videos on my YouTube channel.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to let go of the past and find a new love, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Monday
Aug112014

My Favorite Quote for the Week

"A happy childhood is the worst possible preparation for life" - Richard S. Friedman

I love this quote. Not only is it true, it reflects the true meaning of life. So many people dream of a day when they win the lottery, fall in love, or retire to that perfect fantasy life. The fantasy is that if we had it easy, if things were magically "handled" for us, if we had no worries, then we would find our ultimate happiness.  The truth is our life has meaning, texture and character all because we DON"T have it easy all the time, things are not magically handled for us and we have worries and struggles throughout our lives. It is in those moments when we are challenged that our lives become alive, evolve and transform before our very eyes.

No one said life was easy. It's not. But easy doesn't mean fulfilling and satisfying. So today, look back on your life and appreciate where you've been and how you've become the person you are today. I guarantee it was not because you had it easy. It was not because everything was handed to you on a silver platter. It was because you overcame struggles, learned your lessons the hard way and celebrated those sweet moments of triumph even more so because of it.

Here's to your life--a life well lived.  Now go take on the day!

Be well,
Julie

If you are someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

Create Relationships in Your Life That Work — learn more at www.julieorlov.com

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Wednesday
Mar262014

Coping with Endings: Three Must Do's in Times of Transition

Endings are hard. Even if you know that it is best for you to let go of a relationship, going through the process is painful. Here are three very important things to do in order to move through your loss with more power and ease.

  1. Settle into the sadness and loss. Don't try to minimize, deny, self-medicate or distract yourself from all the normal and natural feelings that arise when going through a loss. Sometimes people will run from the feelings simply because they're afraid that if the submit to them, they will drown in them. Please know that you will come out the other end. You will feel better in time. But you can't get to the other side without going through the hard part first. So feel your feelings and be patient and kind with yourself.
  2. Understand that during times of transitions you will feel lost, anxious and unsteady. This occurs in the in-between time from accepting the loss to finding a new normal. This entails feeling uncomfortable for a while. When you're in that in-between space, you need to understand that this is a necessary time to figure out who you are as a person without your ex, what you need to learn from having had that relationship and what you want to create in your next relationship. It takes time to feel comfortable in your own skin as a single person. The emptiness is pronounced. The more you can settle into this transitional time, the easier it will be for you to recognize lessons learned from the past and new opportunities that await you in your future. Don't rush this process. You will move through this in your own time and way. Be patient and get comfortable with the unknown. Remember, one needs to be confused before clarity occurs.
  3. Embrace your new life as it unfolds. Don't be afraid to let love in again. Enjoy feeling strong and content as a single person. In other words, when the dust settles and you feel whole again, say yes--yes to new people, experiences, and opportunities. Live your life to the fullest! 

If you or someone you know is struggling with a loss, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

Create Relationships in Your Life That Work — learn more at www.julieorlov.com

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