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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential


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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

Paula Markgraf Katz

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Entries in long-term relationships (3)


Is Your Spouse Your Roommate or Your Lover?

You can't believe it's summer already. Another school year has gone by. You are trying to decide where to go on vacation and any idea you have seems like a lot of effort. If you're really honest, the idea of a family vacation seems exhausting. Taking a long weekend away by yourself sounds so much more enticing. You look across the kitchen table at your husband. He is busy writing out checks and reminds you that he will be working late next week so you will need to pick up the kids from their various afternoon activities.

Things are comfortable between the two of you. After all, you’ve been married for almost two decades. The household runs smoothly. The kids' needs are taken care of. But you realize that you and your husband have settled into a life together that feels more like roommates and less like lovers. Over the years your sex life has slowly withered away to an early morning quickie every other month or so.  You think back on the days when your sex life was good. You made an effort to wear sexy lingerie—he made an effort to seduce you in the ways you liked—you both made an effort to mix it up and have fun. Now it seems like passion is the last thing on your minds, settling instead for a comfy night on the couch watching TV until it's time to get some sleep. And while you still have warm feelings for your spouse, that flame seems almost extinguished. Tonight as you sit across from your husband, you feel lonely, longing to reignite some passion—longing to look at him as your lover, once again.

If this scenario sounds familiar, you are not alone. Many couples after some years have gone by, or when the kids have moved out, look at each other as if they were compatible roommates. And for many, there comes a time when that comfort level is no longer acceptable. Couples hit a cross road every few years and for most couples, this cross road will be met at least once, if not more, throughout the lifetime of their relationship.

If you are experiencing the roommate blues, here are five things you can do to bring passion back into your relationship. Click Read in Browser to access full article

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Dealing With “The Empty Nest”

Many parents, who have devoted their time, energy, and identity on parenting, hit a crisis when the children are gone. Many couples, who have devoted their time, energy, and identity on parenting, will also find themselves in crisis when their last child leaves the home. This is not only common but a natural milestone that couples hit as they move through their lives. This time of year is the time that many young adults leave the nest for college or for good. It is important to address all the issues that surface during this important milestone, both on an individual as well as relational level. Here is my 4 step process for dealing with an empty nest.

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To truly know someone takes a lifetime, and then some

At the beginning of a romantic relationship when you are in the throes of phase one—object-fantasy, it is common to think you know someone more than you realistically could. It’s the time when you’re under the spell of “falling in love.” Although people feel like they know who someone is in a short period of time, most people logically understand that they cannot possible know someone that well given the limited time and experience you've had together. As time goes by and our relationships develop, there comes a time when we believe we know everything there is to know about our partners. For some this may take several years, for others it may entail decades. This is the moment we stop making inquiries as to whom our partner truly is. This is the time we are most vulnerable to complacency.

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