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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential


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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

Paula Markgraf Katz

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Change is in the Air! What you need to do to make it work.

What changes have been happening in your life? Are you starting a new job or business venture? Have you moved? Starting to date someone new? Starting over all together?  Life changes are both exciting and challenging at the same time. They require letting go of the old, defining the new, and dealing with the unknown as you say goodbye to the past and get comfortable with your new future.

Changes and times of transition offer us tremendous opportunities to expand and grow. We discover things that empower us and things that humble us.

If you are dealing with a challenging change, get the support you deserve. Big changes require a team approach. Decide who you want on your change team and how they will support you in successfully navigating the transition. Some examples of team members include friends, mentors, advisors, coaches, counselors, family members and specific people who have specific skill-sets and professional know-how. Whoever you decide to include on your team, make sure you build your team. Don't go at alone. If you don't, you will be more stressed and less likely to succeed.

Having the right people in the right place at the right time ensures your success and well-being.

Life is full of change and my life is no exception. It seems like just when I've settled in from one change, I'm off to the next. My latest news?

I'm pleased to announce that I've moved to a new and beautiful office in Hermosa Beach. But before you start wondering where it is, you won't have to look far. Our new office is just across the hall from the old office--we're now at 2615 Pacific Coast Highway, Suite 327 Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.

The good news is that the new offices enable me to accommodate more psychotherapy and coaching clients. So if you've been putting off taking the time to take care of yourself, your relationship and your life--this is the time to take action. Give me a call at 310-379-5855310-379-5855  and start creating the life you choose. I work with individuals, couples and and families. And whether you are feeling anxious, depressed, frustrated or resigned, there really is a way to shift the way you live your life and relate to others that results in more fulfillment and satisfaction.

Not in the Los Angeles area? No problem. I work via phone or Skype for those that are not able to come to the office. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised how effective a virtual session can be. I've been doing this work for over 25 years and some of the most powerful and impactful sessions I've had with clients have been conducted by phone.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

Be well,


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About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About Your Relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz,

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Is Your Spouse Your Roommate or Your Lover?

You can't believe it's summer already. Another school year has gone by. You are trying to decide where to go on vacation and any idea you have seems like a lot of effort. If you're really honest, the idea of a family vacation seems exhausting. Taking a long weekend away by yourself sounds so much more enticing. You look across the kitchen table at your husband. He is busy writing out checks and reminds you that he will be working late next week so you will need to pick up the kids from their various afternoon activities.

Things are comfortable between the two of you. After all, you’ve been married for almost two decades. The household runs smoothly. The kids' needs are taken care of. But you realize that you and your husband have settled into a life together that feels more like roommates and less like lovers. Over the years your sex life has slowly withered away to an early morning quickie every other month or so.  You think back on the days when your sex life was good. You made an effort to wear sexy lingerie—he made an effort to seduce you in the ways you liked—you both made an effort to mix it up and have fun. Now it seems like passion is the last thing on your minds, settling instead for a comfy night on the couch watching TV until it's time to get some sleep. And while you still have warm feelings for your spouse, that flame seems almost extinguished. Tonight as you sit across from your husband, you feel lonely, longing to reignite some passion—longing to look at him as your lover, once again.

If this scenario sounds familiar, you are not alone. Many couples after some years have gone by, or when the kids have moved out, look at each other as if they were compatible roommates. And for many, there comes a time when that comfort level is no longer acceptable. Couples hit a cross road every few years and for most couples, this cross road will be met at least once, if not more, throughout the lifetime of their relationship.

If you are experiencing the roommate blues, here are five things you can do to bring passion back into your relationship. Click Read in Browser to access full article

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