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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

 

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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

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Monday
Aug112014

My Favorite Quote for the Week

"A happy childhood is the worst possible preparation for life" - Richard S. Friedman

I love this quote. Not only is it true, it reflects the true meaning of life. So many people dream of a day when they win the lottery, fall in love, or retire to that perfect fantasy life. The fantasy is that if we had it easy, if things were magically "handled" for us, if we had no worries, then we would find our ultimate happiness.  The truth is our life has meaning, texture and character all because we DON"T have it easy all the time, things are not magically handled for us and we have worries and struggles throughout our lives. It is in those moments when we are challenged that our lives become alive, evolve and transform before our very eyes.

No one said life was easy. It's not. But easy doesn't mean fulfilling and satisfying. So today, look back on your life and appreciate where you've been and how you've become the person you are today. I guarantee it was not because you had it easy. It was not because everything was handed to you on a silver platter. It was because you overcame struggles, learned your lessons the hard way and celebrated those sweet moments of triumph even more so because of it.

Here's to your life--a life well lived.  Now go take on the day!

Be well,
Julie

If you are someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Friday
Jul112014

What is Your Body Telling You?

We spend a lot of time focusing on things outside of ourselves--our spouses, children, friends, work, household chores, etc.  When we focus on life's transitions, they also tend to be external events--anniversaries, graduations, births, deaths, moves, promotions, etc.

However, unless we're dealing with life and death issues, we tend to forget that we our organic in nature. Our bodies have their own transitions and milestones. We go through puberty, pregnancies, illnesses, growth, injuries, menopause (both male and female versions), aging, and eventually, death.  

At times we have more energy and at others, less. There are times when we seem more prone to illness and disease and there are times when we feel strong and invincible.  Our energy has its ebb and flow just as our relationships and our seasons. Some of us are lucky to have good health well into our old age and others find themselves challenged with serious and chronic disease.  

Experts will tell you that your body has its own markers. Some are determined by genetics, others by lifestyle, and others still by chance and fate. Some people teach mind over matter, others teach mind-body connection. Some people preach God's will over genetics, others practice modern medicine, the latest miracle drug and the age defying diet.

Regardless of which truths beckon you, I believe it is important to listen to the wisdom your body holds. If it tells you to rest, rest. If it tells you to be in motion, be in motion. If it tells you to drink water, quench its thirst.  

The body knows more than you think. Learning to listen will give you clues as to what job offer to accept, which people are good for you to have as friends, which invitations to accept and which ones to reject. Your body tells you when danger is near, when you need to slow down and when you need to make that appointment with your doctor.

It's easy to spend time in our heads. It's easy to ignore what our body is telling us until it is too late.

So spend time everyday listening within. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. Honor its wisdom.

If you or someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Friday
Jun132014

Beware of Buyer's Remorse 

There comes a time when you must choose. You must choose which college to attend, which house to buy, if you will get married and to whom, if you will take the new job, if you will buy that car. We are faced with making choices all the time. Most of our choices are relatively small--what do I want to have for dinner, which blouse will I wear today, which project will I work on, etc. However, from time to time we have big choices to make. Choices that have big implications. Choices that usually involve selecting from more than one option.

A funny thing happens when we are forced to "choose."  We become anxious, even obsessed with making the right choice. We struggle to consider all the factors involved with making that decision. For some, choosing something big, new and different is easy. For others, its painstaking. But for most everyone, there is a common phenomenon known as "Buyer's Remorse."

Buyer's remorse is that moment when you realize that what "was" is now gone. It's the moment when you realize there is no going back. The marriage is official, escrow has closed, the relationship has ended, you've quit the old job, you've begun your first day of college.

What is buyer's remorse really about? Why do we suddenly miss our old life? What is at stake when we let go of the past and move on to the future? Aren't we doing this all the time anyways?

To help you navigate through your big "choices," here are a few things to know when it comes to buyer's remorse.

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Friday
May092014

7 Ways to Deal with Your Empty Nest

It's that time of year. The school year is coming to a close and for those of you who are parents, this means dealing with endings and preparing yourself and your children for new beginnings that lie ahead.  

For those of you that have graduating seniors, like myself, it is a more poignant time of year. It is the time to begin the process of launching your children out into the world. It is the time to deal with your own feelings as your role as parent shifts into a different gear. And as cliche as it sounds, if this is your last child going off to college or adventures of his own, it is your time to deal with the empty nest.

I must confess that while I have helped many mothers and fathers work their way through this time, experiencing this first hand is quite a different story.  So I've decided to share my own process with you in hopes that it will help validate yours. Yours may look different than mine, or the transition you are going through may be different, but I promise you the issues and tasks that must be addressed in order to make your way through to the other side are quite similar. So in the interest of helping you understand what waters must be navigated and how best to do this, read on.

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Wednesday
Mar262014

Coping with Endings: Three Must Do's in Times of Transition

Endings are hard. Even if you know that it is best for you to let go of a relationship, going through the process is painful. Here are three very important things to do in order to move through your loss with more power and ease.

  1. Settle into the sadness and loss. Don't try to minimize, deny, self-medicate or distract yourself from all the normal and natural feelings that arise when going through a loss. Sometimes people will run from the feelings simply because they're afraid that if the submit to them, they will drown in them. Please know that you will come out the other end. You will feel better in time. But you can't get to the other side without going through the hard part first. So feel your feelings and be patient and kind with yourself.
  2. Understand that during times of transitions you will feel lost, anxious and unsteady. This occurs in the in-between time from accepting the loss to finding a new normal. This entails feeling uncomfortable for a while. When you're in that in-between space, you need to understand that this is a necessary time to figure out who you are as a person without your ex, what you need to learn from having had that relationship and what you want to create in your next relationship. It takes time to feel comfortable in your own skin as a single person. The emptiness is pronounced. The more you can settle into this transitional time, the easier it will be for you to recognize lessons learned from the past and new opportunities that await you in your future. Don't rush this process. You will move through this in your own time and way. Be patient and get comfortable with the unknown. Remember, one needs to be confused before clarity occurs.
  3. Embrace your new life as it unfolds. Don't be afraid to let love in again. Enjoy feeling strong and content as a single person. In other words, when the dust settles and you feel whole again, say yes--yes to new people, experiences, and opportunities. Live your life to the fullest! 

If you or someone you know is struggling with a loss, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

Create Relationships in Your Life That Work — learn more at www.julieorlov.com

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