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I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

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Monday
Jul202015

A Good Relationship is not a Destination…

A good relationship is not a destination; a good relationship is a process.

We all want to “get there.” We want to put in the work and reap our rewards. We want someone to show us the way, give us the answers and somehow enable us to finally be happy.

Or so we think.

The truth is that a good relationship is process. It begins with becoming aware of who you are, understanding what makes your partner tick, and learning how to navigate the waters of being in relationship with each other. You never become an expert. You never totally get there. There is always more to learn. You will never be perfect at it.

I invite you to consider that you and your partner will stumble from time to time. I invite you to accept that a good relationship requires you to work at it. You can’t be complacent, lazy or take it for granted. You need to put your attention and efforts toward it. And you need to understand that even when you do this, you will never get that happy ending.

So what’s in it for you and yours?

When you commit to learning and living the process, you acquire a relationship muscle, a comfort level with understanding issues and breakdowns that occur within the relationship, and the confidence, know-how and courage to work through them with more ease and grace.

This is the destination. Learning the process, and then learning the process again and again.

The gift from doing so?

Personal power and freedom of choice. And a relationship based on mutual respect, love and intimacy. Go for it!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to learn the process of relationship building, don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Sunday
Jun142015

Quote for the Week!

If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.   -An African proverb

It's not a matter of either/or. It's a matter of both/and. We must make the choice of going fast or far every day. Next time you need to choose, choose wisely.

Be well and safe travels,

Julie

P.S. If you'd like more information on understanding what it takes to create a transformational relationship and navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love .  If you'd like more information on how to work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Saturday
May092015

Does Our Culture Support Transformational Relationships?

We live in an instant gratification and ‘me first’ culture now more than ever. We also live in a culture that spends more time in virtual spaces connecting with people in superficial ways than creating real relationships face to face. It has led to an increase in bullying, isolation and addiction. 

So when I ask myself the question "Does our culture support creating transformational relationships?" -- I look around and this is what I see. Forgive the cynic in me--she seems to be kicking feverously today.

I see…

  • Websites dedicated to promoting affairs, secrets and betrayals.
  • A porn industry dedicated to creating porn addiction at the expense of intimate connections and relating to real women in real ways
  • Social media where one can have hundreds and thousands of "friends."  I don't know about you but I have trouble maintaining close connections with the dozen or so really close friends around me.
  • An economy that requires two working parents to make ends meet. And for many families, it takes two parents working four jobs collectively to simply pay the rent and put food on the table.
  • A work ethic that does not support real work life balance and a society that believes the harder you work, the longer the workweek, the better you look to your boss. Somehow working yourself to death is a necessary rite of passage to getting a promotion.
  • Family time that now consists of people sitting at a booth at a local restaurant, all of whom are glued to their respective cell phones and not each other. And this now includes the adults at the table, not just the teenagers.
  • The ability to catalog shop for mates as opposed to meeting people through friends, school, work, places of worship and hobbies.

Let’s face it. We have more choices and less satisfaction and real meaning. I long for the days when life was slower, simpler, and less technology driven.

More marriages end in divorce than thrive with time. We are a throwaway society; we replace our electronic devices every four or five years either because they are broken or because we simply want the latest new gadget. It appears we treat our relationships accordingly.

So does our society support transformational relationships? I say no.

What can we do about it? Plenty.

Start with you and yours. Put the needs of your relationships first. Share your delight in doing so with your friends, family and children. Be transparent and pride yourself in your dedication to delaying gratification, demonstrating loyalty, slowing down your life, taking and making time for family and loved ones, understanding that you can't get everything you want when you want but by supporting your relationships first, at the end of the day, you are surrounded by love and belonging.

Let's create a new normal. Let's create a culture that supports transformational relationship. And let it start with us.

Thank you for taking this journey with me. I welcome your thoughts.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you'd like more information on understanding what it takes to create a transformational relationship and navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love .  If you'd like more information on how to work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about 

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Saturday
Apr112015

Change is in the Air! What you need to do to make it work.

What changes have been happening in your life? Are you starting a new job or business venture? Have you moved? Starting to date someone new? Starting over all together?  Life changes are both exciting and challenging at the same time. They require letting go of the old, defining the new, and dealing with the unknown as you say goodbye to the past and get comfortable with your new future.

Changes and times of transition offer us tremendous opportunities to expand and grow. We discover things that empower us and things that humble us.

If you are dealing with a challenging change, get the support you deserve. Big changes require a team approach. Decide who you want on your change team and how they will support you in successfully navigating the transition. Some examples of team members include friends, mentors, advisors, coaches, counselors, family members and specific people who have specific skill-sets and professional know-how. Whoever you decide to include on your team, make sure you build your team. Don't go at alone. If you don't, you will be more stressed and less likely to succeed.

Having the right people in the right place at the right time ensures your success and well-being.

Life is full of change and my life is no exception. It seems like just when I've settled in from one change, I'm off to the next. My latest news?

I'm pleased to announce that I've moved to a new and beautiful office in Hermosa Beach. But before you start wondering where it is, you won't have to look far. Our new office is just across the hall from the old office--we're now at 2615 Pacific Coast Highway, Suite 327 Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.

The good news is that the new offices enable me to accommodate more psychotherapy and coaching clients. So if you've been putting off taking the time to take care of yourself, your relationship and your life--this is the time to take action. Give me a call at 310-379-5855310-379-5855  and start creating the life you choose. I work with individuals, couples and and families. And whether you are feeling anxious, depressed, frustrated or resigned, there really is a way to shift the way you live your life and relate to others that results in more fulfillment and satisfaction.

Not in the Los Angeles area? No problem. I work via phone or Skype for those that are not able to come to the office. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised how effective a virtual session can be. I've been doing this work for over 25 years and some of the most powerful and impactful sessions I've had with clients have been conducted by phone.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

Be well,

Julie 

About Me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About Your Relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz,

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Saturday
Mar072015

Take a Leap of Faith!

You want to make a change. You believe your life has become stagnant. Your relationship is beginning to bore you.  You still haven't gone after your dreams and you believe time is running out. These thoughts will inevitably pass through your mind at various times in your life. The question is not wondering if your thoughts are valid, because they are. The question is what will you do about it.

You need to decide if you will let these feelings pass (and eventually they will on their own) or if you will take action and make a change. There's really no right or wrong choice, there's simply a time to choose. But before you choose to ignore that tugging feeling that tells you something needs to shift, I invite you to take a look at what is most likely stopping you from taking a risk and creating change.

Some may say that your reasons for wanting a change are impractical, irrational, or unreasonable. Some may warn you that you're better off with what you have than risking the unknown. Others will convince you that your desires are childish and irresponsible. You, yourself will create doubt and uncertainty as to the reasons behind your restlessness or the validity of what you want to do.  The bottom line is you and your well meaning friends and family are experiencing the same thing... Fear.

So how do you overcome your fear? There's only one simple answer. You take a leap of faith. I know that some of you are assuming I mean you trust that God or the Universe or Whatever will be watching over you and taking care of you and your choices. And there's nothing wrong with defining that statement in that way. But I'm talking about a different kind of faith--the faith I'm referring to is faith in YOURSELF.

Here's what's important for you to remember about yourself when you're feeling scared about change.

  • You have been through many changes in your life already and have survived each and every one of them.
  • You have fallen down more than once, picked yourself up off the ground, and moved on until life became more manageable.
  • You have developed a support system whether you know it or not. There has been someone somewhere who has helped you during times of crisis, change and uncertainty.
  • You know how to ask for help and accept help when you need it.
  • You have coping skills that have been developing since you were born. You have more of them than you realize.
  • You learn from your experiences (you can't help but do this as your brain is hard-wired to) and apply those learnings to other things.
  • You know that most things in life are worth the risk--love, adventure, joy, accomplishments, growth.
  • You know that without change, growth does not occur; without growth, things wither and die.
  • You know that you can't control much but what you can control can make a difference to yourself and others.
  • You know that even with risk, you may not get to your desired destination.
  • You also know that some of the best destinations are unplanned.


Take a leap of faith today...in yourself.

Believe in your ability to create, learn, problem-solve, adapt, deal with disappointment and celebrate life.

Be bold. Take a leap of faith. Jump into your next adventure.

Be well,
Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to make a change in their life, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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