What are people saying about The Pathway to Love:

“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential


More Reviews

You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

Paula Markgraf Katz

Join the Conversation:


Blog Index
The journal that this archive was targeting has been deleted. Please update your configuration.
« Inspirational Quote for the Week! | Main | A Good Relationship is not a Destination… »

Transformation Is Not an Event!

Transformation is not an event. It is a process you repeat over and over again as you work toward mastery.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say you want to transform your body. If you go to the gym and work out you don’t expect to have a finely tuned body after one work out. You understand that it takes consistent effort in building muscle, strength, flexibility and stamina. It requires patience and perseverance. You know that putting in the work one day at a time eventually pays off. After weeks and months of taking care of your body, you start to see a real transformation. Suddenly, people start to notice the change as well. Your clothes fit differently. You feel stronger and better. You like the new you. Your commitment grows and the results show accordingly.

Then one day, your boss tells you that you didn’t get the promotion. A close family member dies and you find out your son is using hard drugs. Life immediately becomes extremely stressful and demanding. As you deal with all the challenges and process your feelings, your time spent at the gym dwindles. You know the exercise will help you get through all the stress but the stress has triggered your old ways of coping. Six months later you find your strength and stamina has dwindled. Your clothes are getting tighter and you feel more sluggish. What happened to your transformation? Well, life is what happened.

If you see transformation as an event, you could easily give up. If you understand that transformation is a process, and an imperfect process at that, you will eventually get yourself back to the gym and continue the process. You don’t see it as starting over or regression or failure. You see this as a part of a lifetime journey of transformation.

You can transform many things--your health, beliefs, relationships and lifestyle.

Regardless of what you want to transform for yourself, remember it is an on-going process. You will forever navigate the tensions between old and new, rest and movement, easy and challenging, security and risk.

So make the commitment to living your best life and taking the steps necessary to live the life you choose. This is true transformation.

Be well,


P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

Reader Comments

There are no comments for this journal entry. To create a new comment, use the form below.

PostPost a New Comment

Enter your information below to add a new comment.

My response is on my own website »
Author Email (optional):
Author URL (optional):
Some HTML allowed: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <code> <em> <i> <strike> <strong>