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—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential


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Happy Birthday to Me!

I’ve just turned 50.  As much as I know that there is a predictable developmental path that all human beings generally follow, I’m still surprised when I notice my life is no different.  I’ve traveled through all the developmental phases a typical 50 year old woman does.  It makes me feel so ordinary.  Sometimes I feel like such a cliché.

And then I remember that my book “The Pathway to Love” is all about traveling down predictable developmental pathways.  In fact, the book offers reassurance and comfort in the fact that we are not alone – we’ve all been there or will be there more than likely at one point or another.   The book reminds us that along with all the challenges to overcome and problems to be solved, there are also many gifts that await us as we journey down the road.  My life has been no different.  As I look back over the past decade, I am amazed on what has transpired.  Rather than go into all the details of the past ten years of my life, I rather you reflect on your own.  So regardless of your age or birth date, play along and ask yourself the following:

  1. What life lessons have I learned?

  2. What life lessons have I had to learn again (and again)?

  3. How have I treated others in my life?

  4. How have I allowed others to treat me?

  5. What do I now know about myself that serves me well?

  6. How comfortable am I in my own skin?

  7. Did I shed some old and outdated beliefs and ways of being that no longer work for me?

  8. How have I made a difference in the lives of others?  In what ways?

  9. Have I taken responsibility for my actions?  Asked for forgiveness when I have caused harm?  Promised myself to do better next time? Asked for help or support when I needed it?

  10. Is my heart, mind, and soul still open and willing to learn and expand into the next decade?

As I approached my 50th birthday, I asked myself these very same questions.  I realized that while I hit all the same “marks” that so many other 50 year olds have done before me, my path was still my own.  I no longer felt like a cliché.  I felt proud to have completed another rite of passage.  I felt good about where I was ten years ago and where I am now, no matter how many wrong turns it took to get me here.  I felt connected to what it means to be human.  And then, I blew out the candle and enjoyed a piece of birthday cake.

Be well,


Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Create Relationships in Your Life That Work — learn more at www.julieorlov.com

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