What are people saying about The Pathway to Love:

“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

 

More Reviews

You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

Paula Markgraf Katz

Join the Conversation:

  

Blog Index
The journal that this archive was targeting has been deleted. Please update your configuration.
« Happy Birthday to Me! | Main
Monday
Feb072011

To truly know someone takes a lifetime, and then some

At the beginning of a romantic relationship when you are in the throes of phase one—object-fantasy, it is common to think you know someone more than you realistically could.  It’s the time when you’re under the spell of “falling in love.”  Although people feel like they know who someone is in a short period of time, most people logically understand that they cannot possible know someone that well given the limited time and experience you've had together.

As time goes by and our relationships develop, there comes a time when we believe we know everything there is to know about our partners.  For some this may take several years, for others it may entail decades.  This is the moment we stop making inquiries as to whom our partner truly is.  This is the time we are most vulnerable to complacency.

People grow and evolve throughout their lifetimes.  While our basic nature or temperament may stay somewhat stable, our values, likes, dislikes, perspectives, understandings, goals, and beliefs can and do change.  Make it a practice to be curious about who your significant other is.  Be open to learning new things.  Listen to what your partner has to say about current events.  Understand his/her dreams and fears.  Give your partner the freedom to change and evolve.  Have the courage to see things about your partner that you have been unwilling to see in the past.

It is through the practice of inquiry that we keep our relationships alive and well.

Be Well,

Julie

Reader Comments

There are no comments for this journal entry. To create a new comment, use the form below.

PostPost a New Comment

Enter your information below to add a new comment.

My response is on my own website »
Author Email (optional):
Author URL (optional):
Post:
 
Some HTML allowed: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <code> <em> <i> <strike> <strong>