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Monday
Jul282014

Focus on What's Right!

It's so easy to notice what's wrong, missing or hurtful. And while we do register what's right on an unconscious level, we so often miss out on the opportunity to really take in all the positives. This applies to our relationships. We probably let our partners know what they've done wrong, what they are not doing at all, or what they've done that has hurt us more than we let our partners know what they are doing right.

So here is this week's challenge. Focus on what's right. Take in all the wonderful aspects of who your partner is and what he or she does for you that feels good. Even when you experience something wrong, missing or hurtful, take a moment to let it go for now and return your focus onto what they have and continue to do right.

Your reward for doing so? You will watch your relationship blossom before your very eyes. You will feel more love and appreciation for your loved ones. You will experience more support and love from them. And you will discover that your partner is the perfect match for you!

So take on the challenge and let me know how it goes!

If you are someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Wednesday
Jun252014

What Kind of Relationship Do You Want to Create?

Think about what kind of relationship you want to create. Then do the following: 

If you want a relationship based on trust, be trustworthy.

If you want a relationship based on intimacy, be vulnerable.

If you want a relationship based on honesty, be honest.

If you want a relationship based on friendship, be a good friend.

If you want a relationship based on playfulness, be playful. 

And so on and so on.

Be the kind of relationship you want. If your partner is up to the journey, travel safely together. If your partner is up to a slightly different journey, meet him where the two roads intercept. And if you and your partner want two very different types of relationships, say goodbye with love and continue on your way.

If you travel the journey that reflects the kind relationship you desire, you will inevitably meet someone like yourself somewhere along the road.

Keep the Faith and Just Keep Walk’in.

If you or someone you know wants to create a strong and intimate relationship, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Friday
Apr182014

How Do You Give?

People come in all different shapes and sizes when it comes to giving. Some people give generously while others give sparingly. Wherever you lie on the continuum, giving triggers a lot of things for people. You need to grapple with your fears, judgments, need for control, pursuits of power, and unresolved issues and feelings within your relationships.
 
We all need each other and at times our needs are more desperate than others. We all know what it is like to ask a friend for a favor, a family member to help with a family crisis, or a loved one to help out financially. At one time or another we all need someone's help--we all know what it means to "ask."
 
My question today, is not about how you ask, but rather how you respond to the asking. Do you say yes but secretly resent it? Do you say yes with strings attached? Do you say no for the sake of revenge, punishment, or spite? Or do you say yes, and use the help as a means to punish, shame or control?
 
Most of us at one time or another have given to others in a way that makes us small. We become petty and fearful. Or worse yet, we become coniving--coniving in the sense that we use the opportunity to gain power and control at someone else's expense and usually when they are at their most vulnerable.
  
I know it is difficult for most people to see themselves in a negative light. But we all have a dark side. We all act in ways that are ugly from time to time. So if you recognize yourself in some of the questions above, don't run. This is your opportunity to find more peace and happiness. This is your opportunity to heal.
 
The next time someone asks you to give...

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Sunday
Mar162014

Curing the Annoyance Blues  

One of the benefits of settling into a relationship is you are able to be your true selves with each other and experience each other as such. The downfall to this is that those behaviors that once seemed cute, now annoy you.  Those traits that you thought didn't exist, now show up. And since you feel more secure and able to express yourselves honestly, you are both less likely to hold back your true feelings, including your annoyances. We all know what it's like to be annoyed with others and have others be annoyed with us. Some of you may suffer from this ailment only every now and then while others may suffer from this ailment almost daily.

So, how can we cure the annoyance blues? To help mitigate this inevitable state of dis-ease, I'm offering a few things to consider and do.  Click Read in Browser to access full article.

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Monday
Nov252013

Gratitude: ‘Tis the Season

Thanksgiving is the time of year we stop and reflect on all the things for which we are grateful. And while practicing gratitude is a year round job, let's take advantage of the opportunity to formally reflect on the people, things and experiences that bring joy, appreciation and love into our lives, our relationships, and our world.

This past week I've spent some time contemplating what kinds of things I want to add to this year's gratitude list. I thought about being funny. I thought about all the "duh" things I'm grateful for (good health, family, friends, etc.) and I thought about all those things that happen unexpectedly or unnoticed. I decided that since the obvious is the obvious and my sense of humor may work for some but not for others, I would go with number three. So here's my top ten list of unexpected surprises (and some taken for granted givens) that bring gratitude into my heart.

I am grateful for

  1. The times when my dogs snuck out of the backyard and some stranger noticed, caught them, called me and walked the dogs back to my home, safely securing them back into my yard. Neighbors like this are what make a neighborhood feel like family.
  2. Those unexpected thank you cards that arrive in person or by mail, those that are hand written and express gratitude for something I did or said that made a difference. A thank you goes a long way and knowing you made a positive difference in someone's life is gratifying. I know email is convenient but the written word on real paper sends a whole different message.
  3. The woman who sends me a smile and a "have a great run" every time I pass her on the strand. Her warmth and smile makes my day and I appreciate her salutations every time. She extends a greeting to everyone she passes and does so without expecting anything in return. We should all be a bit more like her.
  4. All the people in my life who graciously forgive me when I disappoint or hurt them in any way. Knowing that my intentions are good, being on the receiving end of understanding, compassion and forgiveness for those moments when I did not shine my best, is both humbling and healing. It is not taken for granted.
  5. All the people in my life who have graciously apologized for those times that they acted out in anger or irreverence to my feelings. It takes courage and integrity to take responsibility for your actions and their impact. An apology goes a long way and I know what it takes to extend one. Not always easy.
  6. All the moms out there that helped me as "second, third and fourth Moms" to my kids, carpooling them to soccer games, helping me out when a crisis emerged, and volunteering for PTA's and other extra-curriculum volunteer committees. As a single mother, there are simply times when you are unable to fulfill parenting duties (those goes for married Moms as well). It really does take a village and for all the Moms (and Dads) out there that help each other out, you are truly appreciated. I couldn't have done it without you.
  7. The person who will allow me to cross a lane even when I'm trying to do so at the last minute because I didn't plan in advance or notice I needed to be in another lane to execute a turn or exit. I know this one may sound silly or mundane but when you need to get over to the next lane and someone intentionally cuts you off, it sucks. On the other hand, when someone motions you to go ahead, you feel a part of a community that understands we all have someplace to go and we all make mistakes in navigating our way there. I'm grateful for those that have a cooperative commuter attitude.
  8. Those people who are willing to take on the "messy" jobs in life. When the need arises, I'm grateful for the workers that will fix the toilet, clean the sewers, pick up the trash, put out the fires, clean the wounds, and attend to the elderly that are no longer able to care for themselves. Some jobs are simply more demanding and messy than others and the people who take on those roles with professionalism and a caring attitude make the rest of our lives work better. Don't ever underestimate the value of the person who is willing to clean up after your mess or take care of a responsibility that you would rather not.
  9. The fact that my life is relatively easy. I have clean running water, electricity, a warm house, all the conveniences that modern life has to offer, a way to make a living, good friends, great parents that are still alive, two fantastic daughters, and a man that holds me close every night before I go to sleep. I'm lucky. Not everyone is and I know it. I'm grateful to have this life and hope that in my own way, I contribute to the betterment of others. I do my best although I'm sure my best is not enough.
  10. Those who have committed their life to helping others in need. While my work is directed toward this cause, there are many others that have dedicated their lives in much more significant ways to the betterment of humankind. Our problems are complex and vast here on planet earth. We have not been great stewards to the planet and our fellow living beings (and creatures alike). And while there are still millions that contribute to the problems every day, there are thousands that work to find solutions and alleviate immediate suffering. There are thousands that work tirelessly to protect those that cannot protect themselves. There are still more that advocate for other living creatures with which we share our planet and for the planet itself. I'm grateful for each and every one of you.

I wish all of you a wonderful Thanksgiving Holiday. Enjoy your feast and take the time to reflect on your gratitude list. I'd love to know what yours entail so feel free to share! 

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With gratitude,

Julie 

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to create a transformational relationship with the person you love, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

And don't forget to catch my radio/TV show Pathways to Love w'Julie Orlov LIVE every Sunday 1:30pm PST on LATalkLive!

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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