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Entries in relationship problems (8)

Sunday
Nov022014

How Is Your Relationship Like Your Checking Account?

As it was the first of the month, I spent part of the day taking care of my bills. As I entered all my deposits and withdrawals from my checking account into my online registry, I realized what a wonderful analogy this is for our relationships. So what does a checking account have to do with your relationships? 

If you only take withdrawals and never make any deposits, your account balance will eventually go to zero. If you continue to spend irresponsibly, your account will eventually be closed and the bank will charge you for insufficient funds. It’s a lose-lose operation.

The same goes for relationships. If you only take without giving, your relationship will become non-sustainable as well. A healthy relationship requires regular on-going deposits—deposits of love, good will, nurturing, support, favors, and just taking care of business. Without these, the deficit will lead to dissatisfaction and resignation. The relationship will not survive.

If you put some money into your checking account and never do anything with it, you may not suffer any immediate loss but you will not earn any return on your initial investment either. In today’s economy, money must be put to work so that it can work for you. It’s a two-way street.

The same goes for relationships. If you put a lot of effort in during its’ formation but then assume that’s all you need to do, the relationship will not bring much return on your investment. When you understand what it takes to make the relationship work over time, the relationship will bring you better levels of return on that initial investment.

So ask yourself these questions.

  1. Am I making consistent, regular, on-going deposits into my relationship?
  2. Did I make more efforts early on, only to ignore my relationship more as time went on?
  3. What’s the balance in my relationship? Am I taking more than I am giving?
  4. Am I putting in the effort needed for my relationship to work better on my behalf and my partner’s behalf?

I suggest you ask yourself these questions every month. Maybe make it a ritual that goes along with paying your monthly bills. Because understanding your relationship’s balance is just as important as knowing how much money you have in your checking account.

If you or someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

As always, I’m here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Monday
Jul282014

Focus on What's Right!

It's so easy to notice what's wrong, missing or hurtful. And while we do register what's right on an unconscious level, we so often miss out on the opportunity to really take in all the positives. This applies to our relationships. We probably let our partners know what they've done wrong, what they are not doing at all, or what they've done that has hurt us more than we let our partners know what they are doing right.

So here is this week's challenge. Focus on what's right. Take in all the wonderful aspects of who your partner is and what he or she does for you that feels good. Even when you experience something wrong, missing or hurtful, take a moment to let it go for now and return your focus onto what they have and continue to do right.

Your reward for doing so? You will watch your relationship blossom before your very eyes. You will feel more love and appreciation for your loved ones. You will experience more support and love from them. And you will discover that your partner is the perfect match for you!

So take on the challenge and let me know how it goes!

If you are someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Sunday
Feb162014

Growth Does Not Come Without Risk 

Do you want your relationship to deepen? Do you want to feel like you can be totally yourself, be fully self-expressed and live your life from a place of true power? If the answer is yes, then be prepared to be uncomfortable. Growth and deep connection comes out of taking risks. It can be risky to...

Share your deepest fantasies

Reveal your dark or shadow sides of yourself

Ask for what you really want

Say no to what you really don't want

Go after something that feels ambitious and out of reach

Go after that something in partnership with your significant other

Forgive and allow yourself to be vulnerable, even after you've been deeply hurt

Be willing to face and take responsibility for your mistakes, even those that have deeply hurt others

Face your worst fears and move forward courageously anyways

Give your heart fully to another person, allowing yourself to be completely vulnerable and open

Unfortunately, there is no way to grow and stretch without feeling some growing pains.  So if you are willing to venture into the unknown, here are some things you can do to move you and your relationship forward.

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