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Sunday
Aug092015

Just Say No!

Saying no to what you don’t want opens the door to what you do.

We spend a lot of time and energy trying to get what we want—the right romantic partner, the right job, the right work-life balance. People will utilize all kinds of things to bring in their desired reality. God knows people will sell you just about anything in pursuit of your aspirations. You may have tried visualizing your wants, creating a vision board, making positive affirmations, hiring a coach, or creating a strategic plan. These are not bad things to do and in fact, when you put your attention on what you want, you are certainly more likely to get it.

However, there is more to creating something new and different. You not only need to say yes to what you want, you need to say no to what you don’t. In fact, I’d go as far to say that saying no is a crucial first step to recognizing and embracing something new.

So if you’re tired of

  • Dating people who aren’t good for you
  • Settling for crumbs instead of what you truly deserve
  • Tolerating mistreatment or abuse
  • Getting taken advantage of for your giving and compassionate nature
  • Or anything else that is not working in your life…

Then start saying no.

No to what doesn’t work for you—no to those people and circumstances you will no longer tolerate and accept.

When you make a stand to stay away from those things and people that do not work for you, you take a clear stand for those that do.

Just say no.

And feel good about your commitment to your life!

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

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Monday
Aug252014

A Good Relationship is...

A good relationship is not a destination, a good relationship is a process. When you understand how relationships develop over time and what issues to address and how to address them effectively, you become proficient in the process of relationship building. Once you master the process of relationships, you are able to create relationships that result in healing, growth and transformation. This is where the magic lies. This is what The Pathway to Love is all about.

If you have not checked out The Pathway to Love program, I strongly encourage you to do so today. My life's work is about creating a process, a pathway that allows you to work through any issues that arise in your relationship so that you and your partner become more connected, not less. The program includes:

The Pathway to Love book will teach you about all the challenges and opportunities in the four phases of a developing relationship, helping you identify which phase you’re in right now, and illustrating how couples evolve their relationships to greater levels of intimacy. 

The Pathway to Love Workbook will take you, step by step, through a series of questions and reflections that you can do on your own or with your loved one that will move you from your “stuck” state of conflict to resolution and understanding. You’ll have an opportunity to deeply explore your true fears and desires and to learn things about your partner you’ve never known before. You’ll feel your love and trust build with every exercise and question.

The Pathway to Love Audio Guide is a candid recording of real sessions with real clients as they work with me to move through their specific struggles. You’ll hear me advise a woman who is distraught over a boyfriend who stops returning calls, help a wife and mother decide whether to stay married after her husband had an affair, and offer guidance to a couple who can’t seem to agree on how much closeness and affection is enough. By listening to these real sessions, you’ll see The Pathway to Love program “in action” and be able to apply the core lessons to your own situation.

The Pathway to Love program will also enable you to:

  • Go from struggle, fighting and disappointment to feeling deeper love, deeper trust, and more security in your relationship
  • Explore the truth about yourself and your partner so you can fully accept yourself and your partner and stop feeling “triggered”
  • Redefine, reignite, and breathe new life into your relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together or how much distance you’re feeling now
  • Create the right conditions from which you and your partner can heal, grow, and transform

To read more and order your copy today, please visit www.julieorlov.com/tptl 

You deserve to have a relationship based on mutual respect, love and intimacy. So do something for yourself and the people you love. Create intimacy and transform your relationships through self-discovery and discovery of others. You won't regret it.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you are someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Sunday
May052013

Feeling Out of Control?

As you continue to deepen your relationship and take risks, you will have moments when “things” feel out of control. As you experience changes in your life, such as moving in with your significant other, getting engaged, getting married, ending or starting a new job or business, having children, becoming ill, etc. you will find yourself coping with these changes in varied ways. Your personal coping mechanisms have been developing for many years and are activated the moment change occurs and as a result, you feel out of control. Feeling out of control when change is upon you is quite normal. Reacting to feeling out of control is also normal.

What’s surprising is that your coping mechanisms for dealing with change can deceive you. You may believe you are reacting to something else when in truth you are simply struggling with change. It is important to understand this dynamic because what you don’t know may hurt you.

Let me give you some examples. The “something else” can look like

  • Your partner is not paying enough attention to you
  • Your partner can’t seem to do or say anything right
  • You feel unappreciated and unsupported
  • You feel insatiable, like your needs and wants are a bottomless pit
  • You are easily irritated and annoyed
  • You are eating, smoking, drinking, and sleeping— too much or too little
  • You feel overwhelmed, like there is not enough of you to go around
  • You feel like something is wrong with you but can’t put your finger on it

If you relate to any of these and have recently experienced any kind of change in your life, you are suffering from what I call – Control Mania. This entails trying to find something or someway to feel back in control—of yourself, your life, and your relationships.

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