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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

 

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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

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I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

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Entries in marriage (8)

Friday
May302014

How Long Does It Take to Know Your Mate?

As you settle into your relationship you begin to understand that your mate is not exactly the person you thought she was when you first started dating. You now understand that your mate is a complex person with many facets and moods. You start to learn that he doesn't like being rubbed under his chin; she is sensitive when it comes to being criticized for being messy (even if it's done in a teasing way); he is hard to read sometimes and just because he's quiet doesn't mean he isn't having some kind of reaction; she hates mustard; he loves to swim underwater; she won't cry in public; he cries at sad movies; and so on, and so on.

As your relationship grows and you begin to feel like you really do know your mate, one day he inadventantly shares a story about a past girlfriend you didn't know existed. You take a step back. "How could I have not known this about him? Why didn't he share that with me?"

Or one day when you're on vacation, your girlfriend says "Let's play tennis." You look at her in bewilderment as you never knew she played tennis and as turns out, she's pretty darn good. "After ten years together, how could I not know that my wife knows how to play tennis?"

These types of situations happen again and again in the world of relationships. So while these incidences may surprise you, they don't surprise me. It's quite common and normal. As a therapist and coach, I hear it all the time.
 
So how long does it take to fully know your mate? The answer is--a lifetime. Learning your mate never ends. The more you settle into your relationship, the more you realize that it will take a lifetime to truly know the person you love, the person you depend on the most, the person with whom you share your life.

Why, you ask? Well these are just some of the many reasons why you will never fully know the person you love.

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Friday
Apr182014

How Do You Give?

People come in all different shapes and sizes when it comes to giving. Some people give generously while others give sparingly. Wherever you lie on the continuum, giving triggers a lot of things for people. You need to grapple with your fears, judgments, need for control, pursuits of power, and unresolved issues and feelings within your relationships.
 
We all need each other and at times our needs are more desperate than others. We all know what it is like to ask a friend for a favor, a family member to help with a family crisis, or a loved one to help out financially. At one time or another we all need someone's help--we all know what it means to "ask."
 
My question today, is not about how you ask, but rather how you respond to the asking. Do you say yes but secretly resent it? Do you say yes with strings attached? Do you say no for the sake of revenge, punishment, or spite? Or do you say yes, and use the help as a means to punish, shame or control?
 
Most of us at one time or another have given to others in a way that makes us small. We become petty and fearful. Or worse yet, we become coniving--coniving in the sense that we use the opportunity to gain power and control at someone else's expense and usually when they are at their most vulnerable.
  
I know it is difficult for most people to see themselves in a negative light. But we all have a dark side. We all act in ways that are ugly from time to time. So if you recognize yourself in some of the questions above, don't run. This is your opportunity to find more peace and happiness. This is your opportunity to heal.
 
The next time someone asks you to give...

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Sunday
Jan052014

7 Things You Can Do To Start The Year Out Right

Now that the New Year is officially underway, I'd like to offer some suggestions on how you can make a fresh start with your loved ones. No matter what has transpired in the past year—good , bad and indifferent—2014 offers you the opportunity to create new ways of relating that promises to bring you closer. Here's a list of 7 things you can start doing today. 

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