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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential


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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

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I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

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Are You Really Interested in a Committed Relationship?

When you first fall in love, everything is easy. Sex is great, conversations flow, you don’t notice all those annoying habits, and you love spending time together. It’s effortless. As the relationship matures and you settle in, things become less easy. Those annoying habits show up all the time, the guy who once wanted to take you dancing every week, now rather watch a movie on Netflix, and the woman who used to dress up for every date, now shows up in jeans and sweats. 

Oh yes, it’s that time when the fantasy of phase one subsides and the work of phase two begins. This is the time to ask yourself the big question—“Am I really interested in a committed relationship?” 

To help you search your soul, answer the following questions as honestly as you can and let’s see what’s true for you.

Am I willing and interested in… 


  1. Listening and understanding rather than defending and re-attacking my partner?
  2. Learning who my partner is and what makes him or her tick?
  3. Sharing who I am with her or him in return?
  4. Understanding that at times I will be bored, frustrated, and lazy with this relationship (and so will my partner)?
  5. Accepting that healthy relationships take work to sustain?
  6. Working through the tough times knowing that good times will come again?
  7. Growing as a person?
  8. Giving up control, compromising, and finding the win-win whenever possible?
  9. Telling the truth even though it may hurt me, my partner and the relationship?
  10. Understanding that my partner and I are not perfect and will make mistakes along the way?
  11. Figuring out if I like more things than not about my partner?
  12. Forgiving?


If you said yes to eight or more questions, then you are definitely ready to take the plunge.  And what about the other four questions? Don’t worry;the best journeys are those that are filled with unexpected twists and turns. You just may surprise yourself.

Be well,


P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

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Curing the Annoyance Blues  

One of the benefits of settling into a relationship is you are able to be your true selves with each other and experience each other as such. The downfall to this is that those behaviors that once seemed cute, now annoy you.  Those traits that you thought didn't exist, now show up. And since you feel more secure and able to express yourselves honestly, you are both less likely to hold back your true feelings, including your annoyances. We all know what it's like to be annoyed with others and have others be annoyed with us. Some of you may suffer from this ailment only every now and then while others may suffer from this ailment almost daily.

So, how can we cure the annoyance blues? To help mitigate this inevitable state of dis-ease, I'm offering a few things to consider and do.  Click Read in Browser to access full article.

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