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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

 

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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

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Sunday
Nov022014

How Is Your Relationship Like Your Checking Account?

As it was the first of the month, I spent part of the day taking care of my bills. As I entered all my deposits and withdrawals from my checking account into my online registry, I realized what a wonderful analogy this is for our relationships. So what does a checking account have to do with your relationships? 

If you only take withdrawals and never make any deposits, your account balance will eventually go to zero. If you continue to spend irresponsibly, your account will eventually be closed and the bank will charge you for insufficient funds. It’s a lose-lose operation.

The same goes for relationships. If you only take without giving, your relationship will become non-sustainable as well. A healthy relationship requires regular on-going deposits—deposits of love, good will, nurturing, support, favors, and just taking care of business. Without these, the deficit will lead to dissatisfaction and resignation. The relationship will not survive.

If you put some money into your checking account and never do anything with it, you may not suffer any immediate loss but you will not earn any return on your initial investment either. In today’s economy, money must be put to work so that it can work for you. It’s a two-way street.

The same goes for relationships. If you put a lot of effort in during its’ formation but then assume that’s all you need to do, the relationship will not bring much return on your investment. When you understand what it takes to make the relationship work over time, the relationship will bring you better levels of return on that initial investment.

So ask yourself these questions.

  1. Am I making consistent, regular, on-going deposits into my relationship?
  2. Did I make more efforts early on, only to ignore my relationship more as time went on?
  3. What’s the balance in my relationship? Am I taking more than I am giving?
  4. Am I putting in the effort needed for my relationship to work better on my behalf and my partner’s behalf?

I suggest you ask yourself these questions every month. Maybe make it a ritual that goes along with paying your monthly bills. Because understanding your relationship’s balance is just as important as knowing how much money you have in your checking account.

If you or someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

As always, I’m here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Saturday
Oct042014

3 Questions to Ask Yourself before Sleeping with Your Ex

I get tons of emails from people who are having sex with their ex. Some struggle with the realization that it is not good for them but have difficulty cutting the cord and staying away. Others find the situation harmless and claim that the casual encounters meet their needs. And while these readers say they accept the fact that they will never get back together with their ex, I can't help but wonder why they look to me for final approval. Is there an underlying concern? Are they in denial?

To help all of you out there who have or may be considering having sex with your ex, here are 3 questions to ask yourself before deciding if having sex with your ex is right for you.

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Monday
Aug252014

A Good Relationship is...

A good relationship is not a destination, a good relationship is a process. When you understand how relationships develop over time and what issues to address and how to address them effectively, you become proficient in the process of relationship building. Once you master the process of relationships, you are able to create relationships that result in healing, growth and transformation. This is where the magic lies. This is what The Pathway to Love is all about.

If you have not checked out The Pathway to Love program, I strongly encourage you to do so today. My life's work is about creating a process, a pathway that allows you to work through any issues that arise in your relationship so that you and your partner become more connected, not less. The program includes:

The Pathway to Love book will teach you about all the challenges and opportunities in the four phases of a developing relationship, helping you identify which phase you’re in right now, and illustrating how couples evolve their relationships to greater levels of intimacy. 

The Pathway to Love Workbook will take you, step by step, through a series of questions and reflections that you can do on your own or with your loved one that will move you from your “stuck” state of conflict to resolution and understanding. You’ll have an opportunity to deeply explore your true fears and desires and to learn things about your partner you’ve never known before. You’ll feel your love and trust build with every exercise and question.

The Pathway to Love Audio Guide is a candid recording of real sessions with real clients as they work with me to move through their specific struggles. You’ll hear me advise a woman who is distraught over a boyfriend who stops returning calls, help a wife and mother decide whether to stay married after her husband had an affair, and offer guidance to a couple who can’t seem to agree on how much closeness and affection is enough. By listening to these real sessions, you’ll see The Pathway to Love program “in action” and be able to apply the core lessons to your own situation.

The Pathway to Love program will also enable you to:

  • Go from struggle, fighting and disappointment to feeling deeper love, deeper trust, and more security in your relationship
  • Explore the truth about yourself and your partner so you can fully accept yourself and your partner and stop feeling “triggered”
  • Redefine, reignite, and breathe new life into your relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together or how much distance you’re feeling now
  • Create the right conditions from which you and your partner can heal, grow, and transform

To read more and order your copy today, please visit www.julieorlov.com/tptl 

You deserve to have a relationship based on mutual respect, love and intimacy. So do something for yourself and the people you love. Create intimacy and transform your relationships through self-discovery and discovery of others. You won't regret it.

Be well,

Julie

P.S. If you are someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

Create Relationships in Your Life That Work — learn more at www.julieorlov.com

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Monday
Jul282014

Focus on What's Right!

It's so easy to notice what's wrong, missing or hurtful. And while we do register what's right on an unconscious level, we so often miss out on the opportunity to really take in all the positives. This applies to our relationships. We probably let our partners know what they've done wrong, what they are not doing at all, or what they've done that has hurt us more than we let our partners know what they are doing right.

So here is this week's challenge. Focus on what's right. Take in all the wonderful aspects of who your partner is and what he or she does for you that feels good. Even when you experience something wrong, missing or hurtful, take a moment to let it go for now and return your focus onto what they have and continue to do right.

Your reward for doing so? You will watch your relationship blossom before your very eyes. You will feel more love and appreciation for your loved ones. You will experience more support and love from them. And you will discover that your partner is the perfect match for you!

So take on the challenge and let me know how it goes!

If you are someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

Create Relationships in Your Life That Work — learn more at www.julieorlov.com

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Wednesday
Jun252014

What Kind of Relationship Do You Want to Create?

Think about what kind of relationship you want to create. Then do the following: 

If you want a relationship based on trust, be trustworthy.

If you want a relationship based on intimacy, be vulnerable.

If you want a relationship based on honesty, be honest.

If you want a relationship based on friendship, be a good friend.

If you want a relationship based on playfulness, be playful. 

And so on and so on.

Be the kind of relationship you want. If your partner is up to the journey, travel safely together. If your partner is up to a slightly different journey, meet him where the two roads intercept. And if you and your partner want two very different types of relationships, say goodbye with love and continue on your way.

If you travel the journey that reflects the kind relationship you desire, you will inevitably meet someone like yourself somewhere along the road.

Keep the Faith and Just Keep Walk’in.

If you or someone you know wants to create a strong and intimate relationship, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

Create Relationships in Your Life That Work — learn more at www.julieorlov.com

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