What are people saying about The Pathway to Love:

“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential


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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

Paula Markgraf Katz

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Communicate from Intention

Whether you’re aware of it or not, you have a goal in mind every time you speak. In other words, there is an intention, a certain meta-message you want to convey. Some of the time we are clearly aware of what this is; most of the time we are not. For example, let’s say your husband forgot to stop at the market on his way home and pick up some milk. You are completely out of milk and have been waiting for him to get home so you can give your toddler that nice bedtime bottle. He walks in the door and you say, “You forgot to get the milk.” Simple enough. But let’s take a look at your underlying intentions.

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When does support turn into co-dependency?

One of the couples highlighted in The Pathway to Love Audio Guide provides an opening to discuss the issue of co-dependency. Understanding when support and responsiveness turn into co-dependency can be tricky. We can cross that boundary without knowing it, especially if we ourselves feel anxious when a loved one is struggling. It is really important to learn how to distinguish healthy support from dysfunctional support. So here it goes…

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The Ultimate Litmus Test!

If you’re a parent, you know to what lengths you will go to protect your child from harm. Ask any parent and they will tell you that the most important and precious people in their lives are their children. No one wants to see their children mistreated, disrespected, or misjudged by anyone. All any parent wants is for their children to lead happy and successful lives. Okay, I know we can all agree on this. So where is all this leading to, you ask? Think about how you treat your significant other or spouse. How do you speak to her? How honest are you? Do you treat him with respect, understanding, compassion, and integrity? Do you protect her from harm – both emotional and physical? Who are you being in the role of spouse or romantic partner? As you answer these questions, be honest with yourself.

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Acceptance Does Not Mean Yes

I realized the other day that I use the words “accept and acceptance” quite often. I thought it would be helpful to clarify what that word really means and what it does not. Acceptance means you accept people and situations for who and what they are. It requires that you stop making attempts to change, control, or somehow manipulate a person or situation into being something different. Acceptance results in a letting go of what you wish something would be and replaces this with being at peace with what is. Of course, getting to the “at peace” part usually entails working through some sort of disappointment and processing any perceived loss. Acceptance does not mean that you are willing to allow a situation to continue nor does it mean that you are willing to continue a relationship.

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Happy Valentine’s Day! Remember “shower the people you love with love”… Everyday of the year!

I decided to write a different kind of blog entry today—given that it’s Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day was a lot of fun when my children were young. We would go to the store and pick out either pre-made valentines or materials to make our own. Time was spent writing names on the valentines and carefully selecting which candy hearts to give to which friend. It was a day of giving and receiving. The ritual of turning a shoe box into a magical mailbox for your valentines only added to the allure of the day. Seeing the smile on my daughter’s faces as they found my little valentine surprise waiting for them on their beds when they arrived home from school helped me to remember the truly important things in life—loving the people in our lives and giving our hearts to them (thus, the metaphorical meaning of the Valentine).

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