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Is Your Relationship Like a Warm Blanket?

I don’t know about you but when I feel worn out, depleted, or needing to withdraw and replenish, I love to curl up with a warm cozy blanket.  It makes me feel comforted and protected, as if nothing can hurt me from the outside world.  It allows me to get replenished and soothed.  A warm blanket goes a long way.  And it doesn’t take much time before I feel ready to go back into the world feeling energized and secure—secure in knowing that my warm blanket is waiting for me at home, ready to provide the kind of comfort I seek when the need arises once again. My blanket is a good friend.  It knows just how to wrap around me and provide the support I seek.

A good relationship works the same way.  A good relationship is like a warm blanket. 

It knows when you are feeling beat up by life.  It knows when you are down, tired, or simply in need of a cozy hug. Your relationship can provide safety and shelter, energy and sustenance, reassurance and comfort. Just as a blanket does not feel put upon or obligated to wrap itself around you, your relationship can provide the support you need with the same ease.  And just as a blanket does not expect anything in return for its service, your relationship can give unconditionally as well.

How does this work?  How can your relationship become a warm blanket? Although this metaphor simplifies the complexities that exist in your relationships, it works nonetheless.  So here is what I suggest.  Take care of your relationship as if it is as precious as a toddler’s special blankee.  Keep it out of harm’s way; make sure it doesn’t get lost. Understand that it is irreplaceable and one of a kind. Take it with you on your travels and when you’re far away from home. And finally, when it gets too dirty and smelly, throw it in the wash!

Be well,


Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Create Relationships in Your Life That Work — learn more at www.julieorlov.com 

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