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—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

 

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Friday
Oct242014

Don't Settle for Less than You Deserve!

Here's my quote for the week.
 
Find the guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or stay awake just to watch you sleep. The one who turns to his friends and says, “that's her.” – Anony-mouse
 
I love what this quote says. It reminds you ladies to find a man that sees you as his queen, the love of his life, and the one who treats you accordingly. It reminds you gentlemen as well to find the woman who inspires you to be the best man you can be, the one who lights up a room every time she enters it, the one who sees you as her hero--the person she relies on to feel safe, protected and loved.
 
It also says...
  • Real beauty lasts a lifetime 
  • You (and the relationship) are worth fighting for
  • The simple things is life are often the best
  • Being truly seen by another human being is the best aphrodisiac on the planet
Don't settle. People will step up to whatever standard you set. People will treat you the way you expect to be treated. And if they don't, then walk away knowing you're worth more.
 
Too many standards have been watered down in our current culture of immediate gratification. We have created a throw away society where people and relationships are easily expendable. We've lost good manners and the ability to deal with reality. We escape into fantasies at the expense of real relationships and real intimacy. The time has come to reclaim what it means to be human. Let's get back to basics. It's time to turn back to a healthy sense of entitlement and reject our cultural narcissism. Don't settle for less!
Wishing you well on your journey in love!
Julie
 
P.S. If you or someone you know wants to create strong and healthy relationships in every area of your life, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. As always, I’m here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships.

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Saturday
Oct192013

Your Ego: Friend or Foe (Before you make any major decisions about your new relationship, find out!)

The first few dates are easy. You find your date attractive, interesting and nice. You are excited to see where things are going but are not so entangled as to feel vulnerable. Then one day you realize you really like this person. You begin to feel attached, wondering where this relationship will go. Very soon thereafter, you officially become vulnerable. There is now something at stake for you. The last thing you want to experience is more disappointment, hurt, rejection and abandonment.

Your ego is now on alert. It is looking to find anything that says "danger ahead." Your ego is ready to defend, attack and retreat in order to keep you protected and safe. And while you may be aware that this is going on, chances are you aren't. That is, until you find yourself one day saying "Who does this guy think he is?" or "I don't have the time or interest for any of this drama." or "She's nuts—I’m out of here!" or "He is so disrespectful, I'm not going to tolerate any of this."

Before you feed your righteous ego, justifying why you should bail and bail quickly, you might want to investigate your ego's conclusions. Remember, your ego wants to protect you from harm's way but your ego does not have the ability to judge things objectively. Your ego is not wise. It reacts quickly on false assumptions—assumptions that may cause you to jump ship unnecessarily, leaving you lost at sea, once again, wondering what went wrong. Your ego, with its good intentions just may cause you to lose a great future mate. 

So before you obey your egos commands, it will behoove you to find out if your ego is truly protecting you from a real jerk or reinforcing a false belief. Here are a few guiding questions to help you discern what is really going on.

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