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Lessons Learned from New Love

Learn what to do when the unexpected happens in relationships. Read Andrea's story & get a gift too!

Andrea met Brad two months ago. She immediately fell head over heels in love. Brad pursued Andrea hard and in a matter of a few days, they were tied at the hips, spending every day together. They had become sexually involved after the second date and Andrea was sure he was “the one.”

Then one day, something happens. Brad disappeared. It happens more often than you think. Andrea is understandably upset by what happened. She is truly in a panic. Andrea calls me for a session. She tells me she needs to get in as quickly as possible. I can hear her panic and schedule a session for the next day. When Andrea arrives, this is what she tells me….

Before I continue, let me share with you a few things about new love.

When you first fall in love, it is normal to feel excited—excited about how good it feels and what your future holds. It is also normal to have moments of panic—you worry because nothing feels secure and you don’t want to experience any rejection, disappointment, or despair. And while you feel like you know your new love interest, in reality, you don’t really know each other at all. That is why people are hyper reactive when things go wrong—or should I say—differently from what you had hoped and expected from this new and potential relationship.

People get surprised during this initial phase of a relationship. This is because they unconsciously expect that their new significant other’s behavior will be consistent with what they experienced on the first few dates or first few weeks. However, when something changes suddenly and unexpectedly, it is easy to feel confused and concerned. How you handle these situations can set the course for how you and your new love handle future interactions. Knowing what to do can directly impact the future of your relationship. Understanding what is going on with you will ensure a powerful outcome, regardless of what that outcome is.

Andrea knew she was panicking and knew she needed help. She had heard about my work and The Pathway to Love and knew that she better call me before she did something crazy. Secretly she knew she had already acted out but hoped that she could repair the damage by talking to me. Andrea wanted to help others so she allowed me to record part of our session so that you could learn from her experience.

So here’s Andrea’s and my gift to you. We are giving you the download of Track One from The Pathway to Love Audio Guide where you will listen in on my coaching session with Andrea. Listen as Andrea learns why she is reacting the way she is and how best to respond to her boyfriend’s sudden disappearance.

Be well,


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Your Ego: Friend or Foe (Before you make any major decisions about your new relationship, find out!)

The first few dates are easy. You find your date attractive, interesting and nice. You are excited to see where things are going but are not so entangled as to feel vulnerable. Then one day you realize you really like this person. You begin to feel attached, wondering where this relationship will go. Very soon thereafter, you officially become vulnerable. There is now something at stake for you. The last thing you want to experience is more disappointment, hurt, rejection and abandonment.

Your ego is now on alert. It is looking to find anything that says "danger ahead." Your ego is ready to defend, attack and retreat in order to keep you protected and safe. And while you may be aware that this is going on, chances are you aren't. That is, until you find yourself one day saying "Who does this guy think he is?" or "I don't have the time or interest for any of this drama." or "She's nuts—I’m out of here!" or "He is so disrespectful, I'm not going to tolerate any of this."

Before you feed your righteous ego, justifying why you should bail and bail quickly, you might want to investigate your ego's conclusions. Remember, your ego wants to protect you from harm's way but your ego does not have the ability to judge things objectively. Your ego is not wise. It reacts quickly on false assumptions—assumptions that may cause you to jump ship unnecessarily, leaving you lost at sea, once again, wondering what went wrong. Your ego, with its good intentions just may cause you to lose a great future mate. 

So before you obey your egos commands, it will behoove you to find out if your ego is truly protecting you from a real jerk or reinforcing a false belief. Here are a few guiding questions to help you discern what is really going on.

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