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—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential


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Maybe You’re Just Not Ready

You keep telling yourself that you really want to find that special someone. You’re frustrated that while you seem to meet lots of potential mates, none of these potential connections result in anything more than an interesting evening or a wild weekend. You may be baffled as to why you can’t even get a date and look with confusion at all the people out there that seem to be dating every night. You look with envy as you watch those who are clearly in love and connected and fear that you will grow old alone.

You say to yourself “What is wrong with me!”

Well, I’m here to tell you there’s nothing wrong with you. You simply may not be ready.

Just like waiting for the day you start that diet that works, beginning an exercise regimen that sticks, or applying to that new job that you get, there are many false starts that have most likely occurred along the way. Think about all the times you’ve thought long and hard about wanting something in your life before it actually emerged. Consider all the subconscious thoughts that may be sabotaging your efforts. Understand all the things that are completely out of your control and how frustrating it can be to surrender to that reality.

The bottom line? You simply may not be ready. Your timing may not be now.

So instead of making yourself wrong—or resigning yourself to a lifetime of loneliness—just relax.  Your time will come. Enjoy your life as is. Be open to creating new adventures and making every new encounter count. And know that when you are ready, your mate will suddenly appear.

There’s no secret formula, no scientific calculation, no magic spell. One day, you will be in the right place at the right time. You can’t make it happen. You have to allow it to happen. So relax and let your life unfold.

Be well,


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10 Reasons Why You’re Single

Too many people feel like they’re sentenced to a lifetime of loneliness and singlehood. They see themselves as failures because they haven’t found the one or have found and lost the one more than once. I’d like to offer another perspective on the issue. For those of you who feel like you’ve somehow failed at love, think again. In truth, you’ve made a powerful choice for yourself.

Here are 10 reasons why you might have made this very personal choice.

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