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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential


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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

Paula Markgraf Katz

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Are You Having Fun Yet? 

Dating should be fun. If you're not having fun then you are taking things too seriously. Although I know there are those that believe looking for that someone special should be taken seriously, as if it were a work assignment with dire consequences if you fail to achieve your goals in a timely manner, in reality, you simply don't have that much control.

I've seen people meet dozens of on-line hopefuls, only to find themselves disillusioned and burned out in a matter of weeks with no mate to show for it. I've seen other people meet someone out of the blue at the farmer's market when they weren't even sure if they wanted to start dating, only to find themselves in love and in a committed relationship.

And yes, the opposite is true as well. Those that methodically set out to find a spouse may find themselves a wonderful life partner. And yes again, those that never make any intentional effort to meet potential dates find themselves alone and lonely.

So what's my point? Life is random. We have very little control over our circumstances. We never know what will be coming around the corner and we continually have new corners to turn. Life is a never ending flow of changing circumstances, all of which is generally beyond our control.

So for those of you that feel drained and confused, not knowing what you are doing wrong and why you aren't meeting that someone special, I have a solution to your dating woes. Click Read in Browser to access the complete article.

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3 Key Questions to Ask Yourself When Dating Someone New

When you start dating someone new, it is normal to assess if your new love interest has the qualities you are looking for in a mate. Is she controlling? Is he cheap? Is she affectionate? Is he honest? These are important questions. In The Pathway to Love Workbook and Guide, there are specific exercises that help you identify your top 5 needs, wants, and deal-breakers and shows you how to determine if those qualities exist or not. This is an important process to understand.

However, in my 25 years of working with singles, I have discovered that most people are quick to judge and react to behaviors and traits they see in others. There have been many first dates that have never resulted in second dates because someone did something that someone else deemed “undesirable.” Others run for the hills because they are sure an essential trait or quality is missing. Conversely, I seen other people conclude that he or she is "the one" based on a couple of dates where they've seen (or think they've seen), qualities and traits they long for.

Some, if not most, of these quick conclusions are unfounded. In The Pathway to Love Workbook and Guide, there are several questions to ask yourself after making conclusions as to who you think your new love interest is.

These questions are so important that I want to give them to you here on my blog. Once you've decided who and who not your date is, ask yourself the following:

  1. Have I seen the behavior consistently over a long enough period of time under varying circumstances to know that this person truly has the quality listed?
  2. Am I aware that I might be attaching a meaning to his/her behavior that may not necessarily reflect what is true for him/her?
  3. Am I open to learning more about this person and modifying the list above?

It's important to know that everyone can have a bad day or make a bad call. No one is perfect. It's also important to know that some behaviors take on a whole different meaning once you know a person well. You know their sense of humor, their background, their past experiences.  And once you understand the larger context, the behaviors that would have turned you off at the beginning of a relationship, may become quite innocuous once the relationship has been established. Take my experience, for example. Click Read in Browser to read about my own experience in these matters.

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