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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

 

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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

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I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

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Wednesday
May112016

Dating in the Electronic Age

I don’t think social media, dating sites and apps like tinder have done us any good when it comes to dating and finding love. In fact, I’d argue that it has hurt us as society, a society comprised of human beings who long for connection and community. It has turned people into items found in a catalog with their own skew numbers, descriptions, ratings and reviews and return policies. It has turned others into catalog shoppers who get sucked into shiny ads and false promises on what they can expect if they click the “buy” button. It has turned relationships into disposable commodities just like your new iPhone that will be obsolete in six months. It makes commitment less desirable when you know that there will always be another new shinny object coming your way that promises to be better. 

With a culture based on greed, consumption, and insatiable need for instant and constant gratification, our electronic gadgets provide the perfect dispensary for our new addictions and unrealistic expectations. What happened to the days when you met people in your everyday life and cultivated a relationship over time as you got to know one another? What happened to the days when attraction was based on something more than a picture and a headline? What happened to us?

I know I sound quite cynical but as I look around me and see the demise of ethical values and a commitment to building real relationships that mean something, I worry. I want my daughters to grow up in a world that values people for the special beings that we are. I want them to know that their value extends beyond that of a “hook-up” or “booty-call” or filling in a night of boredom for some random person on-line. I want this generation to understand that porn is not an accurate portrayal of sexual intimacy between two people and that there is value in spending time getting to know someone before hoping into bed.

I worry about women who feel like they have to compete with air brushed images on our electronic devices and I worry about men who feel that have to limit their sense of self to the stereotypes that prevail. People who are seeking loving committed intimate relationships should not have to advertise. Human beings are lovable no matter what. It is time to turn off your devices and opt-out of succumbing to the pressures of creating an entire marketing and sales campaign in order to feel accepted, wanted and loved.

Please, let’s stop the insanity!

Be well,

Julie

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Friday
Oct242014

Don't Settle for Less than You Deserve!

Here's my quote for the week.
 
Find the guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or stay awake just to watch you sleep. The one who turns to his friends and says, “that's her.” – Anony-mouse
 
I love what this quote says. It reminds you ladies to find a man that sees you as his queen, the love of his life, and the one who treats you accordingly. It reminds you gentlemen as well to find the woman who inspires you to be the best man you can be, the one who lights up a room every time she enters it, the one who sees you as her hero--the person she relies on to feel safe, protected and loved.
 
It also says...
  • Real beauty lasts a lifetime 
  • You (and the relationship) are worth fighting for
  • The simple things is life are often the best
  • Being truly seen by another human being is the best aphrodisiac on the planet
Don't settle. People will step up to whatever standard you set. People will treat you the way you expect to be treated. And if they don't, then walk away knowing you're worth more.
 
Too many standards have been watered down in our current culture of immediate gratification. We have created a throw away society where people and relationships are easily expendable. We've lost good manners and the ability to deal with reality. We escape into fantasies at the expense of real relationships and real intimacy. The time has come to reclaim what it means to be human. Let's get back to basics. It's time to turn back to a healthy sense of entitlement and reject our cultural narcissism. Don't settle for less!
Wishing you well on your journey in love!
Julie
 
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Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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