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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

 

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Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

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Monday
Sep142015

The Number One Question I Get Asked by Singles

When I’m working with someone who is newly single or habitually single, inevitably he or she will ask me this question--

 “Where do I meet quality people?”

Given how many dating sites one can find on the internet, I’m always baffled by this question. Finding someone to date is easy. Simply put up a well-written profile and a nice picture and you will find someone to date. In fact, you can find someone new to date every week. No problem.

Finding someone who is right for you may require a different approach. While the Internet and dating (or those “hook-up”) apps offer a multitude of people to choose from, they also invite a lot of deception, disappointment and may end up feeling like a numbers game. I’m also a bit old fashioned and I do believe there are benefits to meeting people the way we were meant to—in person, by chance—or not.

So here are my six suggestions on how to meet that someone who is right for you. 

  1. Do what you love to do—just find a group, club or class to do it with. Get yourself in proximity to people with the same passions and interests as you. And being around them week after week provides the perfect environment for relationships to form.
  2. Try something new. Take up tap dancing, piano lessons, whatever. Get past your comfort zone and spend time with others who are learning the same thing. When you’re outside your comfort zone, you become more vulnerable, real and open.
  3. Volunteer for a cause you care about. You will most likely meet others with similar values. Helping others is also a natural anti-depressant and dopamine boost. Focus on something and someone other than your obsession with meeting someone new.
  4. Go to the dog park. Go whether you have a dog or not. There’s something about being at a dog park that makes everyone feel good. Create a ritual around being there at the same time each week. People form friendships easily in these kinds of settings and if you like dog people, this is a great place to meet human friends and furry friends alike.
  5. Go to a restaurant and eat dinner at the counter. Start a conversation with the people sitting next to you. A lot of people eat alone at restaurants. And most of them are hungry for conversation as well as a good meal. Take the lead. It’s as simple as saying, “Hello, my name is ____________.”
  6. And lastly, go through each day with a good attitude. Smile at strangers. Make a point to be kind to the cashier, share a joke with someone on the subway. Connect.  

Let me know how it goes. While it may be scary at first, it won’t take long before your confidence and your social calendar begins to soar!

If you or someone you know is struggling with finding love and would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to create the life you choose and work with me personally, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855 to schedule a session.

Get the support you deserve. Get the help your relationship wants.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

Be well,

Julie

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Sunday
Aug022015

Maybe You’re Just Not Ready

You keep telling yourself that you really want to find that special someone. You’re frustrated that while you seem to meet lots of potential mates, none of these potential connections result in anything more than an interesting evening or a wild weekend. You may be baffled as to why you can’t even get a date and look with confusion at all the people out there that seem to be dating every night. You look with envy as you watch those who are clearly in love and connected and fear that you will grow old alone.

You say to yourself “What is wrong with me!”

Well, I’m here to tell you there’s nothing wrong with you. You simply may not be ready.

Just like waiting for the day you start that diet that works, beginning an exercise regimen that sticks, or applying to that new job that you get, there are many false starts that have most likely occurred along the way. Think about all the times you’ve thought long and hard about wanting something in your life before it actually emerged. Consider all the subconscious thoughts that may be sabotaging your efforts. Understand all the things that are completely out of your control and how frustrating it can be to surrender to that reality.

The bottom line? You simply may not be ready. Your timing may not be now.

So instead of making yourself wrong—or resigning yourself to a lifetime of loneliness—just relax.  Your time will come. Enjoy your life as is. Be open to creating new adventures and making every new encounter count. And know that when you are ready, your mate will suddenly appear.

There’s no secret formula, no scientific calculation, no magic spell. One day, you will be in the right place at the right time. You can’t make it happen. You have to allow it to happen. So relax and let your life unfold.

Be well,

Julie 

P.S. If you would like more information on how to navigate through the four phases of a developing relationship, visit. www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love.  If you’d like more information on how to work with me, please contact me directly at julie@julieorlov.com or call 310-379-5855310-379-5855.

Get the support you deserve.

As always, I'm here to support you in creating strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life!

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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